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Man Gets Yelled At For Bullying Someone He Doesn’t Remember, But His Last Comment Just Escalated It

by Leona Pham
October 30, 2025
in Social Issues

What happens when someone accuses you of something you don’t even remember doing? For this 22-year-old, a chance encounter with someone from their past turned into an explosive confrontation. Drew, a man they didn’t even recognize, accused them of being the reason he had no friends growing up, claiming they had bullied him.

Despite not remembering him at all, the situation escalated quickly, leaving the poster unsure whether they should have apologized just to diffuse the tension. Was it better to apologize or stand their ground? Read on to see how this awkward situation unfolded.

One man is caught off guard when a stranger suddenly calls him out on the street for being the bully

Man Gets Yelled At For Bullying Someone He Doesn’t Remember, But His Last Comment Just Escalated It
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'AITA for not apologizing to the person I used to "bully"?'

I [22M] am not a bully. I had friends growing who were bullied. I saw how bad it could be on someone and never wanted to be the cause of...

I'll try to portray the incident as best I can. I was visiting my parents and went into town to run a few errands.

In town, I was approached by a man I didn't recognize. He was initially friendly and greeted me with, "Hey, are you [my name]?".

Me: "Yeah, I am. Do we know each other?". Drew: "I'm Drew Smith. We used to go to school together."

Despite him saying otherwise, I couldn't recall anyone by that name.

I responded, "Hey, I'm really sorry, man, but I don't think I recognize you at all."

I then started chuckling a bit out of embarrassment since I didn't know how else to react.

I guess Drew didn't like that very much since his whole demeanor changed pretty quickly.

He then asked me much more coldly, "Ohh, then I guess you also don't remember how you used to treat me like s__t when we were kids, huh?".

That completely caught me off guard, and I couldn't respond with anything besides a confused, "What?"

Drew then started going off on me, claiming that I would purposefully exclude him when we were kids.

I had convinced others to do the same and that teachers had to forcefully assign him during group projects because no one would willingly accept him.

That no one would play with him during recess or after school, so he had no friends growing up, and it was all my fault.

I was utterly shocked and denied it, stating I had never done that because I hadn't.

This just made him madder, and he started accusing more loudly,

saying things like "Yes, you f__king did!" and "Why don't you just f__king admit it already and just apologize?"

By this point, we were getting people's attention, and I was afraid someone would call the cops.

I decided to leave, but felt like I needed to get a jab in and said, "Look, man, I'm sorry school was so s__tty for you,

but if you were anything like you are now, you probably deserved it."

In hindsight, I really should have just walked away, but I was getting angry myself, and it felt good at the moment.

Drew started yelling after me even louder, but luckily he didn't try to follow me.

When I got to my parents' home, I told them what had happened.

They were surprised about the whole exchange too, and couldn't recall any friend of mine named Drew either.

My mom then started teasing me a bit, saying I've always been pretty reserved, and if I was ever a d__k to someone, they probably had it coming.

Despite the reassurance, I can't help but feel kinda guilty about the whole exchange.

Drew was absolutely convinced that I was his childhood bully for some reason, despite me not remembering him at all.

Seeing how worked up about it he got, should I have just pretended to apologize or something?

It seemed to me like it would have at least avoided that whole fiasco, even if I'm sure I had nothing to do with it.

Was I the a__hole in how I handled the situation?

Edit: I was asked by some users to include that Drew never mentioned the school we went to together, just that we were classmates.

Also that he only got my middle name right, not first or last. I haven't gone by my middle name since I was 6 or 7.

Edit2: Another user, u/PreviousComedian4263 brought up kindergarten in an offhand way and it made me realize I do know Drew.

We met in kindergarten where we initially started off as friends. I was also friends with a girl by the name of Alex.

She also happened to be Drew's cousin. Like a few months into the year he started being a total shithead towards her,

such as pulling her hair or trying to touch her to annoy her.

I stopped being friends with him almost immediately and had nothing to do with him.

The teacher tried to get me to be friends with him again, but I played up a language barrier between us to make her think I didn't understand her.

She eventually dropped it. Other kids started doing the same because Drew starting throwing massive screaming tantrums whenever he didn't get his way.

Eventually, no one wanted to be friends with him anymore and he was pulled from the class.

That's why he only got my middle name right, because I started going by a new name the next year.

I can't believe this all started over something I did as a 5 year old.

Edit: Hey, thanks a lot everyone for the judgments. It gave me a lot to think about.

Ultimately I think I'm going to agree with the ESH comments.

Drew shouldn't have yelled at me like that, but I could have easily handled it way better than I did.

Especially as I had the chance to make a clean break but instead chose to get my hands bloody with my last comment.

There's no right circumstance to ever say someone deserves to be bullied.

I apologize to anyone I may have offended with my last comment or what it could be taken to imply.

I think I'm gonna sleep on it a little further, not really sure how to feel about the memories the whole thing brought up.

The encounter between the OP and Drew highlights the profound and lasting effects of childhood bullying. Drew’s intense reaction suggests that the experiences of exclusion and isolation he endured during their early years have left deep emotional scars. For many victims, such memories can resurface unexpectedly, leading to strong emotional responses when triggered.

Research indicates that individuals who were bullied in childhood often carry the emotional and psychological consequences into adulthood.

A study published in Psychological Medicine found a significant association between childhood trauma, including bullying, and the development of mental health disorders in adulthood. This underscores the importance of acknowledging and addressing past traumas to prevent long-term psychological harm.

In this context, the OP’s response, deflecting Drew’s accusations with humor and dismissiveness, may have inadvertently compounded Drew’s pain.

Such reactions can be perceived as invalidating, potentially deepening feelings of isolation and resentment. It’s crucial to approach such situations with empathy and understanding, recognizing the lasting impact of past actions, even if they were unintentional or forgotten.

The broader issue at play here is the enduring impact of childhood bullying on mental health. Victims often struggle with feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and depression, which can persist into adulthood. Addressing these issues requires a compassionate approach, including open dialogue, acknowledgment of past wrongs, and support for healing.

For the OP, a sincere acknowledgment of Drew’s feelings, even without direct recollection of the events, could serve as a step toward reconciliation. Empathy and a willingness to listen can facilitate healing and understanding, potentially transforming a painful encounter into an opportunity for growth and forgiveness.

In conclusion, this incident serves as a poignant reminder of the lasting effects of childhood bullying and the importance of addressing past behaviors with empathy and responsibility. By doing so, individuals can contribute to healing and foster more compassionate relationships.

Check out how the community responded:

These users emphasized that the OP was not at fault, arguing that the reaction was a natural response to an unexpected confrontation

coitus_introitus − NTA You would have been an AH for the jab at the end if you'd thought it out ahead of time and delivered it with malice,

but it sounds more like you were just caught off guard so your response was more heated than it might have been otherwise.

It's weird to blame you for reacting to being waylaid by a yeller with less than perfect grace while excusing the yeller.

If it's forgivable for the yeller to have gotten worked up and yelled, then it's forgivable for you to have lacked saintly patience in your response.

It's not like you went out of your way to make the guy unhappy.

It's true that sometimes we don't accurately remember the harm we've done others,

but it's also true that when we're alone and hurting, we may assign blame unfairly.

It seems unlikely that you went so far out of your way to exclude this person through his whole childhood and don't remember him.

It seems more likely that this person simply struggled socially in school, and either fixated on you as the cause,

or inflated some smaller cruelty you showed him in passing out of proportion.

If you genuinely don't recall this person at all, and you didn't go through a phase where this behavior might have been normal for you,

then it seems very unlikely that this person's version of events is objectively correct, however real it may have seemed to them.

UnquantifiableLife − There was a story like this a few months ago. A girl was accusing her BF's sister of being her bully.

The sister thought she was losing her mind because she didn't remember at all.

She held her ground and the gf eventually admitted she was blaming the wrong person.

I think if you really were a bully, you wouldn't be trying so hard to figure out what actually happened. NTA forget about this crazy person.

baubsyeruncle − NTA. Maybe he mistook you for someone else. My guess is that had you apologized, it would have amped him up even more.

FWIW, I was the class s__pegoat all through grade school and bullied mercilessly by boys and girls alike.

If I met any over those people now, I'd shake their hand and buy them a beverage of their choice. Because I got bigger.

DrunkOnRedCordial − NTA, I think Drew might have some issues and probably would have approached any former classmate in the same way.

His behaviour doesn't fit with a mentally healthy person.

It's also possible it was a scam or a practical joke, because it's unusual that the name and face didn't trigger any memories for you.

It does sound like he felt excluded in school and has brooded over it rather than moving along with adult life.

You probably shouldn't have had that dig at him, but he did keep pushing you and made it difficult to walk away.

This group sided with the OP, agreeing that the accuser’s claims seemed unreasonable and fueled by personal insecurities or past trauma

[Reddit User] − NTA, though you maybe shouldn’t have twisted the knife.

It sounds like Drew has serious residual issues from childhood, is angry, and may need help.

A lot of times, apathy or just anonymity feels oppressive to really lonely children.

Interactions and moments you wouldn’t register, they read as you judging and shaming them.

That’s not your fault; it’s probably the fault of the people who raised Drew. You could have apologized, but it might not have helped.

That kind of hurt doesn’t go away just because someone who was on the fringe of your trauma says sorry.

ReviewOk929 − NTA - someone you didn’t know confronted you in the street and started accusing you of things you didn’t do.

I think we would all be more than a bit flustered if that happened. Maybe you could have reacted better but None of us is perfect…

wowImlate − NTA- Everyone has decided OP is a bully simply because one man has said he was. I get being triggered by bullies.

I was bullied when I was younger, but it’s crazy how willing y’all are to label someone a bad person without any proof.

Did it ever occur to y’all that someone willing to yell at another person in public might not be a great source of information?

As for the comment OP made, that’s not bullying, and I don’t know why y’all are making it out to be.

A man was yelling at OP, he had every right to make a comment back.

And I agree, if Drew was anything like he is now back in school, maybe there’s a reason other kids didn’t want to be around him.

There were kids in my school who other kids didn’t want to be around, and it had nothing to do with bullying, it’s because those kids were freaking creepy.

These commenters speculated that Drew may have misremembered the situation or internalized past exclusion

cat_romance − Do you have a yearbook from back then? Do you have friends from then that you could ask?

Can you try and Facebook him and see if you have any mutual friends to confirm you're even the person he thinks?

I mean, he did know your name and if this was elementary school I guess you might not remember after so many years.

Plus, I remember a few bullying incidents in my life that the bullies probably never even considered bullying and visa versa.

Stupid decisions I made while trying to fit in as an awkward ten year old that makes me cringe today at 30.

It also could have just been that Drew was an oddball who was excluded for perfectly understandable reasons (from a child's POV)

and what you saw as just not wanting to play with a "weird" kid barely on your radar,

he internalized your actions and felt incredibly hurt and it stuck with him all these years.

PreviousComedian4263 − Ama have to say NTA here, it's seems like people didn't want to hang out with him in kindergarten

because there was someone more popular to pair up with, how could that possibly be your fault.

So he's been carrying this torch that your his big bad nemesis from kindergarten which if you ask me beefing over something from kindergarten is an L.

Another thing is since this is reddit and the people here aren't exactly "socially well adjusted" to put it in the best terms,

most of them have been bullied at some point and are now projecting, strawmaning and using you as there personal Boogeyman Lol

Edit: hmmm if he really was bullying his cousin then my judgement still stands, but dawg say that next time

sbilly93 − NTA sounds like Drew just had a generally crappy school experience and you were a convenient s__pegoat to lash out at.

And to everyone saying OP might have done this and forgotten about it, think about what the accusation is.

One child single-handedly turning the entire school against another? Not totally impossible but it would probably be a big enough undertaking to remember.

What do you think? Was Drew justified in his anger, or was your response the right one given the circumstances? And moving forward, how would you approach a situation like this if it happens again?

Leona Pham

Leona Pham

Hi, I'm Leona. I'm a writer for Daily Highlight and have had my work published in a variety of other media outlets. I'm also a New York-based author, and am always interested in new opportunities to share my work with the world. When I'm not writing, I enjoy spending time with my family and friends. Thanks for reading!

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