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HOA Orders Family To Prove They Use Weedkiller, Couple Outsmarts Them With $6 Bottle Of Essential Oils

by Layla Bui
November 6, 2025
in Social Issues

When you’ve lived in a neighborhood long enough, you start to recognize the rhythm of HOA drama. It comes in waves, and sooner or later, the tide always turns. After more than a decade of peace, one couple found themselves in the crosshairs of a particularly fussy board obsessed with “weed control.”

Their shady front yard made grass impossible, but the HOA didn’t care; they wanted proof of weedkiller use. So the couple complied… just not in the way anyone expected. Armed with a $6 bottle of lavender-scented “organic weed spray,” they gave the board exactly what it asked for, and haven’t heard a word since.

One eco-petty genius turns an HOA weed crusade into a $6 lavender-oil victory lap

HOA Orders Family To Prove They Use Weedkiller, Couple Outsmarts Them With $6 Bottle Of Essential Oils
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'We have to use weedkiller on our lawn? Fine?'

We’ve lived in this neighborhood for 15 years now,

and the HOA board (like many) is mostly made up of the grouchy old people who have too much time on their hands.

Sometimes it’s fine for a while and then someone new takes over and has some vendetta to pursue.

I guess we were due for the pendulum to swing.

Our front yard has a few big trees and is thus entirely in the shade.

We’ve tried to plant grass seed a few times but there’s just not enough sun for grass to thrive,

so it’s mostly low ground cover, no idea what kind, but it’s green and we keep it mowed.

For 13 years, this was fine.

Then last year, we got a nastygram from the HOA - we had WEEDS!

According to the bylaws, we needed to prove we were using chemical lawn treatments to k__l anything that’s not grass.

Crucially, the rules don’t require us to hire a weed control company (although that’s what they expected)

- we just had to provide proof in the form of a receipt for money spent.

My lovely, petty spouse went on Amazon and ordered a $6 spray bottle

of the most woo-woo new age homeopathic “weedkiller” she could find.

I think the main ingredient was lavender oil.

We dutifully spritzed the yard a few times, sent an action shot and a copy of the digital receipt,

and thanked them for their concern.

The lavender oil, shockingly, did nothing. We didn’t actually have to k__l the weeds, though, just try.

We’ve heard nothing from the HOA since… and the front yard still has almost no grass.

We’ve all faced that moment when someone in power insists on following rules that make no sense. It’s a familiar frustration, doing what’s required not because it’s right or reasonable, but because it keeps the peace.

In this story, that tension between compliance and quiet rebellion takes a witty, almost poetic form. A bottle of lavender oil became not just a loophole, but a symbol of standing up to arbitrary authority without losing one’s sense of humor.

At its heart, this isn’t just about lawn care. It’s about autonomy and how people respond when their environment, literally their home, becomes subject to rigid control.

The homeowners here weren’t trying to defy their HOA for the sake of chaos. They were asserting a simple truth that not everything green needs to be chemically perfect.

For years, their shady yard thrived naturally, sustained by care rather than compliance. When the HOA demanded proof of “weed control,” the couple chose creativity over confrontation, showing that sometimes the best form of resistance is laughter wrapped in lavender-scented irony.

According to Dr. Susan David, psychologist and author of Emotional Agility, “Our ability to respond flexibly, rather than react rigidly, determines not just how we cope with challenges, but how much meaning we find in them.”

This insight fits perfectly here. Instead of responding with hostility or resignation, the couple found a playful middle ground. They met the letter of the rule while preserving their values and sense of humor. In doing so, they turned a controlling demand into an empowering act of self-expression.

What’s striking is how peaceful their defiance was, no fights, no fines, no stress. Just quite cleverness that made a point: not every system deserves blind obedience. Maybe that’s why their story resonates so deeply.

It asks us to reflect on our own boundaries when it is wiser to bend, and when it is better to bloom wild, even under someone else’s watchful gaze?

See what others had to share with OP:

These commenters mocked or condemned HOA restrictions, cheering for natural, low-maintenance lawns, wildflowers, and personal freedom over rigid landscaping rules

404UserNktFound − I approve this compliance. Low ground cover that doesn’t need chemicals

or watering is so much better for the planet. And it’s less work for you, too.

Stabbmaster − So glad I don't have an HOA or any form of board to deal with

FatBloke4 − Here in the UK, some folk have been replacing the grass

in their front gardens/yards with wild flowers, to create small meadows.

This creates environments suited to insects, which in turn, provide food for birds.

I guess that wouldn't go down well with HOAs.

Ineedmoney28686 − I will never understand HOAs.

How can I own my own house if someone ELSE can tell me how to keep it & what I can & can't do with it?!

Lay-ZFair − Spray it on the HOA.

This group shared educational or philosophical insights about what defines a “weed”

MorgainofAvalon − It's a shame the wording specifies grass.

I was speaking with a botanist at one point and asked her what makes a plant a weed.

She told me a weed was any plant that is growing where you don't want it.

So a rosebush growing in a farmer's field is, in that case, a weed.

It doesn't mean a plant has to be invasive, or detrimental to the location to be a weed.

If the HOA hadn't stated it had to be grass, you would have had a good argument.

Impossible-Oven3242 − Look into native plants, especially threatened ones.

HOA will face legal trouble if they hurt a protected species, plus you shouldn't have as much maintenance.

There should be something low-growing that'd be good as a lawn

[Reddit User] − There is no botanical definition of weed other than something growing where you don’t want it to.

So I’d argue that and tell them you have no weeds. Everything growing is where you want it.

Julie_Brenda − First, I’ve never managed a garden under the auspices of an HOA.

But in my non HOA home, the following occurred; upon closing on the property,

we began maintaining it without pesticides or herbicides.

Mowing the front lawn was something we did periodically in the non-winter months.

Dandelions were noticed among the grass. Obviously, mowing them would spread their seeds.

So I began removing them by hand prior to mowing.

This greatly reduced their occurrence compared to my neighbors lawns.

There were some trees or bushes growing right next to the north side of the house.

Concern was expressed that they might undermine the foundations.

If I have to choose between a structurally sound home and a pretty ornamental plant that I rarely see,

I’m going to preserve the structure. I went to an engineering college for many years.

It’s not like we didn’t have other trees and plants.

A rhubarb, raspberry, blueberry, strawberry, grapes, currants, gooseberry.

Multiple pear apricot and apple trees, and one plum. Several pines.

In year four, I continued to hand harvest the dandelion before mowing.

But I took them upstairs to the kitchen, washed prepared them.

My neighbor sent the police to check on my mental health because I was “eating weeds.”

Officer, do you know what a weed is? no. It’s any plant that is unwanted where it is growing.

an oak tree is a weed to the farmer who must guide his equipment around it.

[Merriam-Webster’s collegiate dictionary has this definition (among others):

“a plant that is not valued where it is growing and is usually of vigorous growth especially:

one that tends to overgrow or choke out more desirable plants”]

Officer: You consume these weeds?

Me: I have lived here over three years. No pesticides or herbicides have been used here since we bought the house.

The dandelions are organically grown herbs. Certified Organic is a trademark requiring significant investment to acquire.

I’m not selling produce so I’m not looking for certification. Still I think we should have you evaluated. He said.

Officer, on main street, south of here, is a natural foods store. All their produce is organic.

Dandelions were over five dollars a pound last week when I shopped there.

Just because I have a neighbor who thinks it’s odd, why should I have to prove mental competency

because I prefer to consume what I’ve grown here, instead of buying it in the store?

What’s next? A complaint that I eat beets or asparagus?

Unless you have a criminal code issue to discuss with me, please tell my neighbor to be less nosy.

They left. A couple of months later, we took down the trees/bushes on the north side

but only the ones whose roots looked like they were or would threaten the building.

That we heard about from our neighbor to the north. They liked the view.

They wanted to control our property to maintain their view.

They didn’t want to pay for that… they could have bought it when it went on the market.

It was openly being sold for a month or two before we toured.

They ended up planting similar but far from their building… closer to the property line,

actually, the third and final event was a letter from the city code enforcement.

It said we had weeds and gave a deadline to remove them

or they would send a team on our property to spray and they would charge us for the team.

I wrote back, certified return receipt. I noted that weed is not defined.

Their demand to resolve weeds by the deadline was vague and ambiguous.

And I put them on notice that they were not allowed to trespass on my property for any reason,

including inspections, and that if they sent a team not only would I not pay their invoice

but I would sue them and the city for the cost of my organic supplements for the next ten years. And I promised I would prevail.

Furthermore, I noted that I’m a student of herbal medicine

and that God generally plants everything I would need within three blocks of my home.

What grows that you don’t plant is called “volunteers” by horticultural professionals.

Given that I do have the legal right to harvest on my land, and my parcel was not three blocks in radius size,

I made it clear that my plan was to harvest the volunteers on my land

in their correct season and time of day for maximum potency - including the thistles.

It is up to us to learn the medicinal use of the plants around us.

Clearly something the complaining neighbor did not do. The city never wrote back.

And when I met their code enforcement officer on neutral ground he refused to speak with me.

I suspect no one has ever demanded that he write exactly what is being deemed a weed and what code it violated before.

I did harvest everything eventually. But on the plant's schedule not theirs.

And I kept them and prepared them for use. Wear gloves when handling thistles, folks!

We had a small patch of chives that became dominant in our yard. i like chives.

I loved seeing their purple blossoms. They’re edible too!

I’m thinking of my next home having a green/living roof cover… and I’m thinking chives…

These users admired the creativity behind the eco-friendly compliance, cracked jokes about HOAs

[Reddit User] − Clever idea! I like how you think!

Chemical weed killers are banned here because they get into the air and cause breathing issues for many people.

As a result most lawns are at least 50% green clover lol. Nobody cares! its green and pretty so its all good!

In fact our garden supply shops even sell huge bags of clover seed specifically to spread on lawns

because it's so hardy and survives our brutal winters and dry summers.

I won't mention the lucious crop of bright yellow dandelions that the bees love so much lol

3rd-time-lucky − Best smelling yard in your HOA, maybe you should charge them

for the calming effects it has on your groundcover and your neighbours.

GargamelLeNoir − Wow, homeopathy was actually useful there!

Odd-Artist-2595 − We had a similar patch of shaded lawn and the ground there was covered in moss.

Had a lawn company representative start to tell me all the ways they could k__l our moss and grow grass.

I stopped him and asked why the heck I’d want to k__l the moss.

It’s green, and nice to look a; soft, and nice to walk on; and permanently short, so I didn’t have to mow it.

If anything, I wanted him to tell me how to turn the rest of my grass into moss.

He blinked and said, “I’ve been in this business 30 years and no one’s ever said that. Makes sense to me.”

They cleaned up my leaves and left my moss alone.

FormerChange − Your wife rocks! Ha ha 6 bucks for the win!

No1Especial − I had a friend who kept getting a non-compliance note for the height of their grass (too tall).

He finally pulled the whole thing out (? sod machine?) and put down astroturf. No more letters.

Would you have done the same or gone even further with your petty compliance? Either way, this couple proved one thing: sometimes the sweetest revenge smells like essential oils and freedom.

Layla Bui

Layla Bui

Hi, I’m Layla Bui. I’m a lifestyle and culture writer for Daily Highlight. Living in Los Angeles gives me endless energy and stories to share. I believe words have the power to question the world around us. Through my writing, I explore themes of wellness, belonging, and social pressure, the quiet struggles that shape so many of our lives.

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