Woman Calls Out Ex For Facebook Post Lying About His ‘Absent’ Fatherhood, Now He’s Mad

When an ex posts a heartfelt message online about your shared child, claiming you’re the reason they can’t be a part of their life, it’s hard to stay silent.

One mother found herself in this situation when her ex posted a tribute to their son’s birthday on Facebook, lamenting that she was keeping them apart. While the post was met with sympathy, it didn’t tell the whole story, so she decided to set the record straight.

By sharing text messages that showed her consistent efforts to arrange visits and offer support, she thought she was simply defending herself.

But when the fallout led to him blocking her and losing his girlfriend, she started to wonder if she went too far. Was she wrong for calling him out, or was it justified? Keep reading to see if she was the AH.

A woman calls out her ex on Facebook for falsely claiming she’s keeping him from seeing their son

When people use social media to air private disputes publicly, especially those involving responsibility, parenting, or relationships, research suggests it often causes more harm than resolution.

A 2025 study  on “online public shaming” found that digital humiliation can lead to increased aggression and psychological distress in those targeted, while also creating social and emotional fallout in their wider circle.

In the situation described, a parent publicly exposing an ex‑partner’s neglect by posting private messages and “calling them out”, this kind of disclosure can strain not only the relationship between the adults involved, but potentially affect any shared children or extended family.

Experts on social media’s impact warn that public airing of co‑parenting problems tends to escalate conflict rather than encourage collaboration. (Marietta Family Law)

One problem is that online communication lacks many nonverbal cues, tone, body language, and emotional nuance that help soften sensitive topics. This absence increases chances of misunderstanding, making private conflicts appear harsher and more dramatic than intended. (RSIS International)

Moreover, the act of shaming someone publicly on social media falls under what psychologists call the “online disinhibition effect.”

When people communicate behind screens, some feel less constrained by social norms and more likely to post things they would never say face-to-face, including harsh criticisms or personal attacks.

That doesn’t mean the parent’s anger and frustration aren’t valid. Feeling misrepresented or unfairly portrayed, especially regarding involvement with a child, is deeply painful.

But research indicates that resolving co‑parenting issues through public shaming rarely results in improved cooperation or genuine accountability. Instead, it often leads to increased hostility, breakdown of trust, and long-term relational damage.

In many cases, psychologists recommend direct, honest, private communication, or when needed, mediated conversation (via a neutral third party) to clarify expectations, responsibilities, and reality, especially when children are involved. Public pressure rarely reconstructs trust or models healthy conflict resolution.

So, while the anger behind the post is understandable, the decision to post publicly likely did more damage than good. It escalated conflict, invited judgments from outsiders, and sacrificed privacy, all powerful factors that complicate co‑parenting.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

This group applauds exposing the lies and defending the truth about parenting

These commenters encourage filing for child support to secure the child’s future

This group supports calling out the ex for his public lies and irresponsible actions

These commenters agree that exposing the ex’s lies was helpful for everyone, including his new partner

It’s never easy when family drama spills onto social media, but in this case, the woman’s ex left her no choice. By publicly lying about his role in their son’s life, he opened the door for the truth to come out.

While her approach may not have been ideal for everyone, it was a necessary step in defending herself and her child.

What do you think? Was exposing the truth publicly justified, or did she cross the line? Let us know in the comments!