Every student knows that one professor who seems impossible to please. The kind who has a strict set of rules, runs their classes with precision, and doesn’t bend easily when students ask for exceptions.
While structure can be a sign of professionalism, it can also feel cold and unapproachable, especially when you’re just trying to get help with coursework.
One college student reached her breaking point after feeling repeatedly dismissed by a new professor who insisted on formal appointments for every consultation.
Frustrated and convinced that the woman was simply avoiding her duties, she decided to take her concerns to the university’s administration.















This episode hints at a deeper tension between institutional norms and student needs. The OP believed the professor had a duty beyond contractual hours; the professor believed her boundaries and policies justified her conduct.
The OP’s complaint: she tried to get help after class, during office hours, only to be turned away and told to email questions. She felt dismissed. Her professor insists she’s simply following explicit rules about scheduling and time.
At root, they clash on one question: how much accessibility should a faculty member provide beyond formal hours?
From the professor’s side, boundaries matter. Professors carry multiple responsibilities, teaching, research, service, admin, and unchecked demands from students can erode their workload balance.
According to Inside Higher Ed, clear boundaries help faculty define what is appropriate in student relationships; because of the power differential, professors must set limits to prevent overreach.
Without boundaries, burnout looms. But students have a counterclaim: education is relational, especially in difficult courses or online settings.
In distance or hybrid learning, instructor presence and interaction are significant predictors of student satisfaction.
A study found that in online classes, student satisfaction correlates strongly with how responsive and accessible the instructor is.
When a professor becomes emotionally or physically distant, the learning experience suffers. One relevant principle: “boundaries” don’t mean “inaccessibility.”
They mean transparent limits, clear communication, and fair responsiveness. The NEA guide for faculty advises mapping boundaries explicitly, in syllabi, first classes, and office hour announcements.
The goal: students know when and how to approach, while faculty preserve integrity and balance.
Check out how the community responded:
These commenters roasted the OP for their audacity, agreed the student needed a serious “reality check.”




Several users emphasized professional boundaries and respect for time, drew comparisons to workplace etiquette.
![Campus Drama Erupts After A Student Reports A Professor For “Not Caring Enough” [Reddit User] − YTA, completely unreasonable to expect people to be at your beck and call at any time, especially outside work hours.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1760147917263-19.webp)






A number of educators in the thread tore into the entitlement from an insider’s view.
![Campus Drama Erupts After A Student Reports A Professor For “Not Caring Enough” [Reddit User] − YTA. She doesn’t sit around twiddling her thumbs waiting for students' questions to fall out of the sky.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1760147930254-26.webp)
















![Campus Drama Erupts After A Student Reports A Professor For “Not Caring Enough” [Reddit User] − YTA, the world doesn’t revolve around you. Get over yourself.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1760147960236-43.webp)
Others delivered some tough love peppered with humor.










What started as a clash over boundaries became a lesson in professionalism and entitlement.
Was the Redditor justified in escalating things to the Dean, or did she overstep by confusing accessibility with personal convenience?
When respect and responsibility collide, who really owes whom more? Share your thoughts, was this a case of poor teaching or poor judgment?









