Man Posts Video Of His Parents Missing His Wedding, Now His Family Wants Him To Take It Down

When your parents have repeatedly skipped important milestones in your life, it’s tough not to feel hurt. That’s exactly what happened to one man, whose parents chose to skip his wedding after his sister’s dog became “sick.”

In a moment of frustration, he let his best man post a video with his mom’s voicemail explaining why they weren’t there. Now, his parents are demanding he take the video down, and he’s wondering: Is he the A**hole for keeping it up? Keep reading to see if this wedding video is worth the family drama.

A man refuses to take down a video posted by his best man mocking his parents’ absence at his wedding

When a major milestone arrives and loved ones don’t show up, the hurt isn’t just about one event; it’s the accumulation of being overlooked.

In this story, the original poster (OP) has repeatedly had significant moments overshadowed by his older sister’s dramas, and on the day of his wedding, his parents cancelled at the last minute. That absence triggered something deeper than disappointment, it tapped into years of feeling second place.

From a psychological perspective, OP’s reaction, refusing to remove the video his best man posted as a “gift” that highlighted his parents’ absence, can be viewed as an attempt to reclaim his voice and stand up for his emotional experience.

Research on emotional neglect shows that when a person perceives a pattern of being emotionally side‑lined or dismissed, it often results in reduced self‑esteem, feelings of invisibility, and a heightened need for acknowledgment.

Furthermore, findings indicate that children who believe their parents are emotionally neglectful may carry that sense of neglect into adolescence and adulthood, impacting their emotional wellbeing. PP’s frustration may reflect that the wedding was his moment, and his absence of parental support added insult to emotional injury.

The video becomes more than a social post, it emerges as a symbolic statement. OP’s best man captured the voicemail and turned a celebratory moment into a subtle exposure of the emotional wound. While the friend’s intention may have been humour or solidarity, OP’s use of the clip may reflect a deeper need to have his pain seen.

According to interpersonal‑acceptance theory (IPARTheory), when people feel rejected, or in OP’s case, repeatedly unseen, their behaviours often reflect attempts to regain recognition or protest invisibility.

His father’s reaction, “we’ll make it up to you”, without concrete action, might have felt inadequate in the face of a once‑in‑a‑lifetime event being missed.

That said, the family’s request to take down the video also comes from a place of emotional discomfort. They’re being confronted publicly with their absence and its consequences, which can feel shameful and provoke defensiveness. This touches on a larger dynamic: unresolved emotional injuries often resurface at major life events, and avoidance rarely heals them.

Research on communication‑breakdowns in families shows that when partners, or in this case parents and adult child, avoid discussing emotional hurt, the burden accumulates and trust weakens.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

These users support keeping the video up, emphasizing that the parents’ behavior was exposed

This group encourages the OP to cut ties with their parents, suggesting that the parents’ failure to show up for the wedding shows their lack of genuine care

These users highlight the parents’ favoritism and long-standing neglect

This group pushes for the video to go viral and be shared widely

What do you think? Was the video a necessary wake-up call, or did it cross a line? Share your thoughts below!