Some first dates come with sparks. Others come with red flags so bright you can see them from space. This one? Let’s just say, when your date’s mother knows everything you’re saying within minutes… it’s time to re-evaluate.
A 27-year-old woman shared her recent first date experience with Jack (30M), and it quickly went from potentially promising to seriously uncomfortable. What started off as a casual café outing turned into a bizarre, two-hour phone relay—with Jack’s mother calling a grand total of five times. As if that wasn’t enough, Jack recapped every moment of the date to her while sitting right in front of his companion. Want to know how it unraveled? Read on to hear how this wild date became everyone’s cautionary tale.
One woman’s decision to share her date’s excessive mom calls with friends sparked a heated backlash from the guy
It’s common to brag about being close with one’s mother—until that closeness turns into emotional enmeshment. Jack’s repeated 30-minute check-ins go beyond mere affection; this is what psychologists call enmeshment, where healthy boundaries blur and one partner starts to mirror another’s emotional dependance.
In a Psychology Today article titled “Exposing Enmeshed Parent‑Child Boundaries”, Dr. Meghan Leahy writes: “Poor boundaries and the inability of a parent to regulate their emotions can lead to significant emotional abuse”. Calling five times in two hours on a date fits that description—and might even signal codependent dynamics, where Jack treats his mother not just as someone important, but as a guide for his adult choices.
Another piece, “3 Telltale Signs of Enmeshment in a Relationship” (Psychology Today), explains how enmeshed children often prioritize the emotional needs of their parents over their own, sometimes suppressing personal desires—and in romantic settings, that could mean letting mom hijack a date.
With Jack recounting every detail of the date to his mom in real time, the outcome is obvious: she became the unofficial third wheel. The OP’s decision to share the experience afterward? Completely justified. When someone’s behavior is public—phone calls in a café for all to hear—it’s not gossip to warn others, it’s community care .
So yes, Jack may feel betrayed—but only after making his mom an unexpected date guest star. And when anyone invites mom to crash the evening—and then gets mad you told—maybe it’s time to reevaluate who’s really dating whom.
Online users didn’t hold back—and most agreed the woman did what anyone in her position would do
This group supported her telling friends about the bizarre date
These Redditors flagged Jack’s behavior as a dealbreaker
![[Reddit User] − Uhh girl you are NTA, that would have been an extremely weird and awkward two hours. Like what did you even do when he was on the phone?? I can just imagine the awkward glancing around. You may have helped him to realize how weird it is.. hopefully.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/45960-16.jpg "Mama’s Boy Called His Mom Five Times During A 2-Hour Date, Then Gets Mad When Woman Talks About It")
This group saw his texts as overblown or suspicious
This Redditor’s tale of her date’s five mom calls in two hours turned a café chat into a gossip-fueled firestorm. Her decision to share the codependent chaos with friends sparked Jack’s angry texts, accusing her of breaching privacy.
Was she wrong to spill the tea, or was his mama’s boy routine fair game? Can they move past this call log clash? How’d you handle a date’s mommy mania? Toss your thoughts into the dating drama mug below!
