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Woman Cancels Brother’s Baby Shower After He Made A hurtful Joke About Her Miscarriage

by Annie Nguyen
July 22, 2025
in Social Issues

Imagine coordinating your beloved brother’s baby shower—and reassuring yourself it will be a joyful, healing moment—only for him to crack a joke that you’re glad your baby died, because he wants to be first. One Redditor experienced this gut punch in front of family, and the fallout has been wrenching: she pulled the plug on the shower and set firm boundaries with her brother.

Now she’s on Reddit asking—was she wrong? The community responded with fierce support, calling the comment cruel and prompting an all‑women’s shower for the new mom. Want to see how the drama unfolded—and what parenting experts say about healing, respect, and setting emotional boundaries? Let’s dive in.

Woman Cancels Brother’s Baby Shower After He Made A hurtful Joke About Her Miscarriage

One woman’s decision to cancel her brother’s baby shower after his insensitive miscarriage joke fractured family ties

'Aita For Canceling My Brother’s Baby Shower After He Made A Hurtful Joke About My Miscarriage?'

I am the oldest sibling out of four and my brothers have always been rough on me because I’m a girl. By the way I’m the only girl my parents had and all of my brothers are 1 year younger than me, they were triplets.

I’ve always been the one to be a second mom to my brothers because whenever our parents couldn’t get it I would. One of my brothers had found a wife and they’ve had a baby girl. I am very close to my brother and his wife and even his wife was excited to have me as the babies aunt.

I love this baby with all of my heart being that this is my first niece and I plan on spoiling her because I’m financially stable and even though I’m not wealthy I still have a good amount of spending money.

I also had a miscarriage about 2 years ago that was really hard on me so having a baby that I would be close with was extremely emotional and exciting for me. On the other hand my brother is not, he’s very traditional and wants to be the breadwinner/ provider of his family.

He and his wife want to have a baby shower but it would mean they would loose a great sum of money they can’t afford. I’ve offered to pay for the whole thing because I love them and the baby, plus it would be a beautiful moment for both sides of their family.

My husband and I coordinated with them and payed for anything they wanted for the baby shower. A few weeks before the baby shower my brother, his wife, my husband, and my other brothers were at our parents house for a football game.

The topic of babies and the baby shower they planned came up and my brother made a joke saying “ I’m glad my wife is in working condition so we could be the first ones to have a baby, it feels good to be the first sibling for something.”

That really hurt because I was so excited to be having a baby but when me and my husband got the news it devastated us and it took us a while to become better. I went home crying and I blocked my brother on everything.

I couldn’t believe how inconsiderate and insensitive he was especially after I gave him everything. I texted him one time saying “We won’t be paying for your baby shower anymore, what you did was horrible and I don’t want to speak to you again. ” He told our family and now they’re all trying to contact me but I don’t want to hear it. So Reddit am I the a**hole?.

OP later provied an update:

Update: Ive been reading a lot of the comments and I would like to thank everyone who gave their support and opinion. I will be answering some common questions I’ve been hearing.

1. What was the S. I. L. and families reaction? Everyone did not agree with this comment and the sister in law was pissed he even said something so rude. She texted me how sorry she was in his behalf and she says she totally understands why I made my decision..

2. Did he apologize? He believes he did nothing wrong so he’s standing on his action. While I am upset by his blindness to how this could be hurtful I’m not the kind to argue until I get an apology. I have made the decision to try to still give my sister in law a baby shower because she deserves it.

I don’t want to ruin my relationship with her or my niece so I’m trying to figure out a way to give her a baby shower and still hold my grounds with my brother. If you have any suggestions please let me know!.

After reading the suggestions of other users in the comments, OP added a final update:

FINAL UPDATE!! I took a lot of the suggestions I got and decided to host an all women’s baby shower! My husband wasn’t allowed to go either to make it fair, and of course the men in my family were upset by this but they understood where I was coming from.

As for my brother that made the comment he was tough to deal with at first, but he hosted an all men’s party of his own. I’m so sorry for the late update, thank you all for the support and help!

Reddit’s crowd rallied behind the Redditor, slamming her brother’s cruel joke and the family’s pressure to forgive

Many condemned the brother’s cruelty

Justrennt − NTA. Your brother did not made a joke. I think he was cruel and I question if you are really have a close relationship to him. A woman is not a tool ('working condition') you can use to produce babies.

cb1977007 − Darling, your brother is not “traditional. ” He’s a d**k. People often confuse those two terms.

PinkHairAnalyst − NTA. Please cut him off. He’s insensitive and cruel, it wasn’t meant to be a joke. Also, the fact he views women as tools for conception is downright disturbing as hell.

Signal_Historian_456 − NTA - Your brother basically said he’s glad your baby died so he’s the first one to have a child. Wtf?! This is not some f‘ing joke. And there’s no way to throw flowers over it to make it look better. And there’s no way to take that back. He, as a soon to be father himself, should be able to at least kind of imagine what it would be like to lose his child.

I’d send a message to everyone that they should hardly think about what they want to tell you, bc you’ll cut everyone off who wants to smooth things over, tell you you’re overreacting or to put it into a different life.

He literally said he’s glad and happy your baby died, and there’s no way in hell to turn this around. And no one should come to you with a „that’s not what he meant“ - bc that’s exactly what he meant.

Some supporting OP’s decision, noting miscarriage pain lingers and her brother’s joke was heartless

sissysindy109 − NTA. It's been 33 yrs since my wife miscarried. It's still not something we bring up. There are so many people that don't understand the pain the parents endure when a miscarriage happens.

Succubus_Siren − Nta. Since his wife is in”working condition “ they can work out their own baby shower.

TankBubbly889 − NTA, I too am a big sister but only too two brothers, not that it makes a difference. Nonetheless, my brother would be down a sister is he EVER fixed his mouth to utter such disrespect. That comment sat on his mind & he couldn't wait to say it & said it so gleefully as if he one up'd you, or the other brothers. Yeah nah that's fucked up & I am sorry for your loss.

Justagirleatingcake − NTA - I lost 3 babies in a row between 2005 and 2008. My sister made a similar joke and we haven't spoken in 15 years. It's not funny, it's cruel.

These users criticized family pressure and suggested the family’s outreach is about avoiding the shower bill, not supporting the Redditor.

KathAlMyPal − NTA.... and your brothers weren't rough on you because you're a girl. They were rough on you because they were bullies and it sounds as though this brother still is. I also have three brothers and they would never, ever have said something so cruel and mean spirited. Your brother can't have it both ways.

He can't be an a**hole to you and then expect that you to still pay for a baby shower. Your family are probably trying to contact you so they don't get stuck with the bill.

rwee2000 − NTA I'm betting he's spinning the story, to make himself look good. Set the record straight and stand your ground, and if people are still pressuring you to pay, tell them to pay for it as you won't and then you'll hear all the excuses on how they can't.

This Redditor’s cancellation of her brother’s baby shower after his cruel miscarriage joke turned family joy into a painful rift. Her love for her niece and sister-in-law shines, but her brother’s unapologetic jab cut deep.

Was she right to pull the plug, or should she have kept the peace? How would you handle a sibling’s heartless comment at your expense? Drop your sizzling takes below!

Annie Nguyen

Annie Nguyen

Hi, I'm Annie Nguyen. I'm a freelance writer and editor for Daily Highlight with experience across lifestyle, wellness, and personal growth publications. Living in San Francisco gives me endless inspiration, from cozy coffee shop corners to weekend hikes along the coast. Thanks for reading!

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