Brother Chooses His Dog Over Meeting His 4-Month-Old Nephew

Becoming a new parent changes everything, including the rules of the house. For one new father, the arrival of his son meant a swift end to the long-standing policy of allowing dogs at his frequent cookouts.

His brother, who lives hours away and regularly brings his German Shepherd to parties, was furious. He called the new dad an [jerk] and refused to attend the party, missing the chance to meet his 4-month-old nephew for the first time.

The dad is left wondering if his safety rule was too harsh, or if his brother’s reaction was childish and selfish.

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This situation is a perfect storm of new-parent anxiety and long-distance dog ownership. The father’s new rule is completely understandable. When a newborn enters the picture, safety protocols change, and the risk of an unfamiliar dog, especially a large breed, around a vulnerable infant is a legitimate concern.

However, the brother’s reaction, while childish in its delivery, is rooted in logistics. A 3-4 hour drive means a 6-8 hour round trip, plus party time. Leaving a German Shepherd alone for 10-12 hours is unfair to the dog.

The conflict isn’t about the dog’s behavior; it’s about the clash between the new father’s absolute right to set rules for his home and the brother’s inability to attend without his pet due to the distance.

The father is 100% justified in setting a no-dog rule. A home with a newborn is a high-stress environment, and adding an animal, regardless of how well-behaved it is, introduces an unnecessary variable.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) advises new parents to introduce pets slowly and monitor all interactions closely, especially with large dogs. The father’s concern about the dog’s lack of experience with children is valid.

However, the brother’s refusal to attend is also logistically sound. For long drives, many dog owners rely on bringing their pets rather than leaving them kenneled or alone for excessive lengths of time.

This highlights a common tension point in blended social circles: the increasing role of pets as family members. A 2021 survey by Pew Research Center found that 86% of pet owners consider their pets to be family. For the brother, leaving his “family member” behind for a 12-hour trip is a genuine hardship.

The father’s mistake wasn’t the rule, but his resentment over the brother’s choice. As licensed therapist Dr. Jennifer Guttman states, “When you set a boundary, you must accept the consequences of that boundary.

If the consequence is that the other person chooses not to participate, you cannot then resent their choice.” The father set the rule, and the brother made a choice based on that rule.

Check out how the community responded:

The majority ruled NAH (No [Jerks] Here), recognizing that both the father and the brother had valid points regarding their respective responsibilities.

Several commenters focused on the logistics of the long drive, supporting the brother’s decision to prioritize his dog’s care.

The most significant criticism was directed at the father for being angry at his brother’s choice.

To be mad at each other and refuse to see the others’ viewpoint pushes me really close to E S H. You both need to show some empathy.

The father has the absolute right to protect his child and his home. The brother has the right to prioritize his pet’s welfare over a long, inconvenient trip. The real problem is the father’s resentment. He needs to accept that his new rule has consequences and that his brother’s choice is a result of those consequences, not a personal slight against his son.

What do you think? Should the brother have found a sitter, or was the father unreasonable to ban the dog entirely?