A 58-year-old dad tried gifting his 26-year-old realtor daughter a cushy 3% commission on a condo he sold himself. No open houses, no hassle, just paperwork for easy six figures. She rejected it outright, demanding 4% and branding him stingy for not coughing up an extra $40,000 of “love.”
Reddit comment section erupted like a fireworks finale. Most users crowned the daughter the greediest brat of the year, screaming entitlement louder than a closing bell. A few defended her “industry standard,” but the overwhelming roar called it a shameless money grab from her own father. Popcorn has never been munched this aggressively.
Dad offers daughter easy 3% commission on already-sold condo, she demands 4% and loses, then quietly accepts.
Our Redditor (a divorced dad about to remarry) could have closed the condo sale completely for free. His fiancée literally has the paperwork superpowers to make it happen. Instead, he decided to slide his daughter a very generous 3% (standard seller’s agent rate) just for typing and clicking “send.”
Most of us would kill for that kind of “work from couch in pajamas” gig, but she heard “insult” and countered with 4%. Cue accusations of being “sc__ewed over”.
Let’s be real: nobody needs to pay their kid anything here. This wasn’t a listing that required weekends of open houses or professional photos of the world’s saddest bathroom.
It was a neighbor knocking on the door saying “I’ll take it.” Dad still chose the “support your child’s career” route, and she chose the “hardball negotiation with Daddy” route.
On one hand, she’s a professional protecting her worth. Fair! On the other, rejecting literal gift money because it’s only five figures instead of slightly higher five figures feels… a little entitled.
Family financial dynamics are a minefield. According to a 2023 survey by the American Psychological Association, money is the number one thing adult children and parents fight about, edging out even politics and significant others. When parents still see a 26-year-old as “my baby” and the 26-year-old sees themselves as “independent business owner,” wires get gloriously crossed.
Relationship therapist Esther Perel once said in an interview, “When marriage was an economic arrangement, infidelity threatened our economic security; today marriage is a romantic arrangement and infidelity threatens our emotional security.”
In this case, Dad offered love wrapped in a check; daughter read the fine print and sent it back for revisions. Perel’s point hits hard here: both sides probably felt disrespected. Dad felt unappreciated for the gesture, daughter felt undervalued in her profession. Classic lose-lose until someone blinks.
Perel’s insight underscores how modern family ties, much like marriages, blend emotional bonds with unspoken financial expectations – turning a simple offer into a high-stakes emotional standoff.
What starts as a generous “here, kiddo” gesture can morph into a referendum on worth, where dollars symbolize deeper validations of love and independence. It’s no wonder these moments sting, they’ve evolved from pure provision to proofs of mutual regard.
The healthiest move (as most therapists would suggest) is what Dad eventually did: hold the boundary kindly, leave the door cracked, and let natural consequences do the teaching. No yelling, no guilt trips, just “Here’s the offer, take it or we’ll handle it ourselves.”
Lo and behold, a Father’s Day text and sudden 3% acceptance. Lesson delivered, relationship (hopefully) intact, and Dad still gets to be the good guy without setting a “negotiate every gift” precedent.
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Some people say the daughter rejected an easy, generous offer and should learn from it
Some people emphasize that 3% for paperwork only is already a great deal
Some people advise OP to simply move on and handle the sale without her
![[Reddit User] − NTA You don't want to pay more than 3% when you can do this yourself - fine. She feels that 3% unfair - also fine.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/wp-editor-1763454169056-1.webp "Dad Offers Thousands For Basically Nothing, Daughter Rejects, Considering It Insufficient And Offensive")
![Dad - Ok. [Dad buys the Home Alone Lego house with the money he was going to give his daughter]](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/wp-editor-1763454175712-6.webp "Dad Offers Thousands For Basically Nothing, Daughter Rejects, Considering It Insufficient And Offensive")
Dad turned a simple condo sale into a masterclass in generous boundaries and still came out smelling like roses (and 3% richer in family peace). So, internet jury: was the daughter just standing up for her worth, or did she fumble a bag that 99.9% of us would have sprinted toward barefoot over hot coals?
Would you have paid the extra 1% to keep the peace, or held the line? Drop your verdict below, we’re all ears!
