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Dad Refuses To Pay Babysitter For Broken Glasses After Daughter’s ‘Accidental’ Mistake

by Layla Bui
December 22, 2025
in Social Issues

When you’re already juggling work, family, and the loss of a spouse, the last thing you expect is to be caught in a conflict over a broken pair of glasses. This father’s daughter broke her glasses while being watched by a babysitter, but what started as a misunderstanding quickly turned into a demand for compensation.

The babysitter claims the breakage was intentional and insists the father pay for new glasses, but he stands firm, refusing to take financial responsibility for what he believes was an accident.

His co-worker is siding with the babysitter, calling him out for not supporting her, but is he wrong to say no? Read on to see where the line between responsibility and fairness gets drawn.

A father refuses to pay a babysitter for new glasses after his daughter accidentally broke hers

Dad Refuses To Pay Babysitter For Broken Glasses After Daughter’s ‘Accidental’ Mistake
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'AITA for refusing to pay the babysitter for new glasses after my daughter broke her old ones?'

I'll preface this by saying that I (M35) am a widower with 2 kids (9, 11).

I recently got back to work and since I work nightshifts, I had to get the kids a babysitter

(they're at school during the day and my sister stays with them)

I was able to find a babysitter with the help of a co worker (actually they're related)

and things have been going pretty well except for few days ago.

The babysitter called me while I was at work to tell me that my 9 year old daughter broke her glasses.

I got home, heard both sides of the story and came to a conclusion that it was in fact, an accident.

But the babysitter said my daughter broke them intentionally after she refused to let her outside late in the evening.

I asked my 11 year old daughter and she said the babysitter's story is accurate but since she and her sister have a beef then,

I figured she lied to set her sister up. my 9 year old daughter cried and said she didn't mean it and it was an accident.

I apologized to the babysitter for the misunderstanding but she insisted there was no misunderstanding

and then asked me to pay her for a pair of new glasses.

I was taken aback by her request and told her I thought we talked this out and rolled it out as an accident

but she insisted it wasn't an accident. I apologized but refused and said it was unfair to expect me to pay,

especially since she didn't pay attention to keep her glasses safe regardless of wether it was an accident or not.

The babysitter argued with me then started crying swearing that my daughter broke them to get back at her.

My 11 year old daughter sided with her but my 9 year old said she is only siding with the babysitter for her own benefits.

The girls started fighting and I ended up telling the babysitter to leave.

She got my co worker involved and she said I should take responsibility and pay the babysitter for new glasses

since she can not afford them being a broke college student and in need for glasses.

I apologized but refused to pay, my co worker got upset and shamed me

for condoning my younger daughter's actions and treating the babysitter poorly when she's the victim in this situation.

It's been days and the babysitter is still wanting me to pay for new glasses

but I feel like she's trying to use the fact that I'm in dire need of help and is hoping to get extra money out of my pocket.

Responsibility isn’t just about who’s at fault but about finding a fair and practical solution. When money gets involved, particularly in family and caregiving dynamics, emotions can cloud what should otherwise be a straightforward decision.

In this case, the father is not refusing to pay out of spite or neglect. Instead, he’s reacting to what he perceives as an unfair request. From his perspective, the broken glasses were an accident. While he recognizes that accidents happen, he doesn’t believe the babysitter’s claim of intentional damage holds up.

He feels that asking him to pay for new glasses is an overstep, especially since the situation remains unclear. His refusal stems from trying to protect his financial boundaries and avoid setting a precedent for taking financial responsibility in situations he doesn’t believe are his fault.

A fresh perspective comes when we consider the psychological impact of boundary-setting. The father and the babysitter may have different expectations of responsibility. The father likely believes that the babysitter, as the one in charge, should have been more proactive in preventing accidents, including ensuring the glasses were safe.

On the other hand, the babysitter might feel financially burdened by the situation and think the father should step in to help with the costs of the glasses. The disagreement here stems from differing interpretations of fairness and responsibility.

Psychologically, setting boundaries is key in relationships, especially when dealing with shared responsibility.

According to Psychology Today, misunderstandings like this often arise when boundaries aren’t clearly defined. The father feels that his boundary is set in not being responsible for an accident, while the babysitter might feel entitled to compensation, leading to tension.

Additionally, Verywell Mind explains that financial expectations can create significant tension when not clearly communicated. Both parties may feel that the other is neglecting responsibility, leading to confusion and frustration.

The babysitter might see the situation as a clear case of the father needing to step in, while the father sees it as an incident that shouldn’t result in him paying for the glasses.

The father’s refusal to pay is understandable, he’s trying to protect his resources and feels that the situation wasn’t entirely his responsibility.

However, the babysitter’s request may seem unreasonable to him, given the ambiguity about whether the glasses were intentionally broken or just damaged due to carelessness.

The real issue here seems to be a lack of communication and boundary-setting between the father, the babysitter, and the children.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

These commenters agree that the father is responsible for paying for the broken glasses, regardless of whether it was an accident or intentional

Beautiful-Concern144 − YTA. It doesn't actually matter if it was an accident or not,

your child broke her glasses so you need to pay to replace them.

Sloth-v-Sloth − 100% YTA. I can’t believe that you actually think it is not your responsibility.

Your daughter broke the glasses and whether accidental or deliberate you need to pay for them.

[Reddit User] − YTA. If I accidentally hit your car and dented it, would you be ok with me brushing you off and saying,

hey it was an honest accident? Man up and take parental responsibility for your daughters actions and buy your sitter new glasses.

Razzberrie22 − "Let me preface this by listing specific reasons

why I think I'm not required to hold my kids responsible for their actions especially when it'll cost me money." Pay for the glasses. YTA.

plumb_master − YTA. Pay for the glasses. Your daughter broke them on purpose, even your other daughter is telling you so.

Stop treating her like the baby just because she's the youngest. Even if it was an accident the decent thing to do would be to pay for them.

goddessabove − YTA Glasses are for a disability If your daughter broke a wheelchair, would you still feel the same?

I know I can't see a thing without my glasses. I can't do anything or go anywhere.

And some glasses can cost hundreds because of prescription alone.

mudget1 − The real question you need to be asking yourself is, are you refusing the take the high road because of ego and stubbornness.

You sound like you’re in a financial position to cover the cost of glasses where she’s not,

so at the end of the day what do you have to lose by replacing them

except using this as a teachable moment of accepting responsibility even when we break something by accident

(or especially if it was because she threw a tanty for not getting her way),

and showing your children how to be kind and help those around them when they are impacted by our actions. YTA

[Reddit User] − YTA Your kids break, you bought it. Your babysitter is not TRYING TO GET MORE MONEY OUT OF YOUR POCKET.

She is out of pocket because of your kids actions. Your conclusion that it was an accident doesn't let you off the hook for the damages AH.

enbysquad − YTA please get this girl a new pair of glasses.

It's more likely that your nine year old got scared and lied to avoid getting in more trouble

than it is for your babysitter to call you to lie AND get your older daughter in on it.

Either way, just do the right thing and get her the glasses.

These Redditors stress the importance of teaching children responsibility and accountability for their actions, even when accidents happen

curiousbelgian − YTA. You are actually legally responsible for accidents as well as deliberate breakages

that happen on your property to people you have employed.

Quite apart from that, you are teaching your daughter that her actions have no consequences if she didn't meeeeaaaannn it.

Your co-worker is right and even your 11-year-old daughter can see this. Grow up, take responsibility and make good the damage.

If you don't, I hope she sues you, because she would win.

puppyfarts99 − YTA Do you even hear yourself? Whether it was an accident or not is irrelevant,

however, in this case it be seems more likely that your younger daughter is lying because she's afraid of being in trouble.

What is relevant is your daughter was involved in breaking the babysitter's MEDICALLY NECESSARY equipment while she was working for you.

I suspect this is not the only example in your life when you've tried to weasel

out of paying for something you should be responsible for. Just pay for the new glasses already.

If your babysitter is STILL babysitting for you while you stiff her, I hope she wises up and stops.

Babysitters are a valuable resource, and this one is making it possible for you to earn your living.

CTDV8R − Wow just wow OP. YTA Here we go:

1. All of the comments are right on the money I hope you read them but there are some important things missing.

Most importantly you're about to f up both your daughters for life if you don't cut this out

2. As the other redditor said, if we're in a car accident and I say I'm sorry,

would you just let me walk away and you'll pay the bill for fixing your own car?

Whether it's an accident or deliberate, the person who did it is responsible for making the victim whole.

As your daughter is a 9-year-old it is your responsibility as the parent to make the victim whole.

I am saying victim because this poor young lady is out a pair of medically necessary glasses, she needs to see properly to function!

3. Way to go Dad of the year by marginalizing your 11-year-old because you suspect she's piling on because she's fighting with her sister.

You don't think it's possible for somebody to tell the truth about a situation just

because they are currently not getting along with one of the parties?

Way to tell your daughter you don't respect her, way to tell your daughter you don't trust her.

Good luck with that when she hits her teens, you better start praying now,

because she never really needs you because she's not going to come to you with the truth on anything.

You need to go back to your 11-year-old, have a conversation with her,

you need to say you respect her feedback and her observations and that you trust her.

Because right now you have to told her publicly that you do not trust her over her 9-year-old sister.

4. Way to go Dad teaching your 9-year-old and 11-year-old that there are no consequences if you didn't mean it and it was an accident.

Guess what? Accidents happen, you took a great teachable moment,

and instead of raising your daughters and teach them to be good adults, you chose to be punitive against the babysitter.

This was a chance to teach your daughters that the truth is the most important thing,

that it's okay in life if accidents happen, but when accidents happen the way you recover from them is by doing the right thing.

People should be made whole if there's an accident, and you could have parlayed that right into setting expectations for

as they get older and will begin to borrow things from each other.

Daughters are notorious for borrowing each other's clothes, makeup, music and electronics...

This was a chance to lay the foundation that while you might borrow things from others,

it's still your responsibility to return them in the same condition in which it was borrowed.

5. Why are you digging your heels in so much over a pair of glasses?

Not only are you being unfair, but this story will travel and it might impede your ability to find babysitters to fill in when you need help.

I suggest you think about this entry and the responses of all the other redditors, on this situation you missed the ball completely.

These users point out the potential damage to family dynamics and trust, as the father appears to favor his younger daughter and disregard his older daughter’s perspective

CatteHerder − YTA - it's her fault, really, for not foreseeing my child's vindictive tantrum

and failing to protect her glasses from being deliberately broken. We get it.

You have a favourite child who can do no wrong, and you literally let her get away with

destroying accessibility aides which are necessary for, you know, SEEING.

Even if it was an "accident", she's (your child, and therefore you) still responsible for it.

The babysitter isn't trying to squeeze money out of you, your child broke her glasses.

Doesn't matter if it was an accident. Your kid broke her accessibility aide and you need to fork it over.

Your kid ruins something, it doesn't matter if it was an accident. It's your responsibility to make amends.

JFC "it's her fault for not protecting them better". Gods, drop the victim blaming.

Samanthas_Stitching − YTA. Your kid broke someone else's things. Accident or not it doesn't matter.

It's your responsibility to replace the glasses. my co worker got upset and shamed me for condoning my younger daughter's actions

and treating the babysitter poorly when she's the victim in this situation. Your coworker is pretty much spot on.

ETA: You have two people telling you what happened.

Your other child and the baby sitter. You're clearing choosing to play favorites with the youngest daughter only listening to her.

She's a 9 year old child, she's going to take advantage of this at every turn if you don't stop.

You're going to raise a person with no accountability, no sense of personal responsibility.

GlitterSparkleDevine − You concluded it was an accident despite two out of three people telling you that it wasn't?

You're basing your conclusions on your own personal opinion - not facts.

But you know what, accident or purposeful doesn't matter.

Your daughter broke the babysitter's glasses, so you need to replace them. YTA

Should the father have paid for the glasses to resolve the situation or should he have stuck to his stance? And when mistakes are made, how do you balance fairness with accountability? Share your thoughts below.

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Layla Bui

Layla Bui

Hi, I’m Layla Bui. I’m a lifestyle and culture writer for Daily Highlight. Living in Los Angeles gives me endless energy and stories to share. I believe words have the power to question the world around us. Through my writing, I explore themes of wellness, belonging, and social pressure, the quiet struggles that shape so many of our lives.

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