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Dementia-Stricken Ex-Champion Relives His Glory Days As Local Kingpin Challenges Him In Wholesome Chess Games

by Jeffrey Stone
December 2, 2025
in Social Issues

Elderly chess champion, faded by dementia, reignites genius sparks during an impromptu match with a local expert. The 97-year-old resident, once national titleholder, beams with focus and strategy, thrilling the caregiver who secretly arranged the visit to revive old passions.

Coworkers frown on the unscheduled chaos disrupting care routines. Pride clashes with protocol in the facility. Online, hearts warm to the moment yet question boundaries: inspired kindness or risky improvisation?

Nursing home caregiver wholesome action makes a resident suffering from dementia feel so alive

Dementia-Stricken Ex-Champion Relives His Glory Days As Local Kingpin Challenges Him In Wholesome Chess Games
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'AITA for bringing in a personal visitor to the nursing home I work at to compete at chess with one of the residents?'

I work at an assisted living facility, I.E. a nursing home for people who are very elderly and cannot care for themselves.

One of the residents in the wing I work at is "Josh", a 97 year old man who has pretty bad cognitive decay.

Most of the time, he doesn't remember who I am, who he is, where he is, or what's going on.

However, he's a former national chess champion, something I only know about

because the personal effects in his room include some of his trophies and other awards.

We've got a few sets in the common areas, and if you can wake him up long enough to play, he does still remember how,

and he's thrashed most of the staff at one point or another over the board.

Well, it's not a close friend, but I have a guy I know who is kind of a friend of a friend,

let's call him "Bob", and he's the top player at some local chess association.

A LONG way down from a pro player, but the sort of guy who is usually the strongest player in the room.

I had mentioned that one of the residents I care for is this former champion,

and he asked to come by to visit since Bob's a huge chess nerd and wanted to meet a national champion, no matter what kind of state he was in.

We allow visitors, so I signed him in, and by good luck, it was on one of Josh's better days.

Long story short, they went into one of the common rooms and played chess for 6 hours straight.

I wasn't able to stick around to watch most of it, but I talked with Bob afterwards,

who said that while he's clearly not the player he was when he won the national championships anymore,

Josh is still a 'mean old buzzard' over the board, and won a bit over 2/3 of their games.

Josh missed dinner, and I had to get into the canteen after hours and make him some scrambled eggs and toast just so he'd have something to eat.

And I was with him for the dinner, and it was the most animated I'd seen him in.... ever, actually.

He was actually talking about his day and definitely remembered what was going on,

and how this 'young punk' came to challenge him and he had to show the kid how it's done.

All in all, I thought I did a good thing, brightened up a very old, very sick man's day.

But pretty much all of my co-workers have the opposite take, that disrupting his schedule and agitating him like that was a bad, a__holish thing to do,

especially if it caused him to miss his regular dinner. I'm pretty new at this job, so I do value their opinions, but I don't think what I did was...

Am I the a__hole here? Especially if I do it again?

A former national chess champion recalls mostly nothing of his life. Yet, he becomes so alive when his days of glory revives, thanks to a 6-hour-session of chess with a visitor.

The core drama boils down to a newbie caregiver inviting “Bob,” a local chess club kingpin, to spar with “Josh,” a 97-year-old ex-champion whose trophies gather dust amid his fading memories.

On a rare clear day, the duo battled for six hours straight, with Josh clinching over two-thirds of the wins and chattering animatedly about schooling the “young punk.”

Our OP whipped up late-night scrambled eggs to compensate for the missed dinner, basking in Josh’s unprecedented spark.

Coworkers, however, cried foul over the disrupted routine, labeling it agitating and unprofessional. From the OP’s view, it was pure magic. And perhaps it truly was.

Flip the board, though, and the staff’s gripes aren’t just petty. They’re rooted in the gritty realities of dementia care. Josh might’ve been a buzzsaw on the board, but veering off-schedule can trigger confusion cascades, turning a hero moment into a headache for the night shift. Bob’s enthusiasm was geeky gold, yet without boundaries, it risked Josh’s stability.

Zoom out, and this mirrors broader headaches in elder care: balancing joy with structure amid skyrocketing dementia rates. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, over 6 million Americans live with Alzheimer’s, a form of dementia, and predictable routines are often the unsung heroes keeping chaos at bay.

One study in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society highlights how even minor disruptions can spike agitation by up to 30% in moderate cases. No wonder coworkers panicked over a six-hour detour.

Geriatric psychologist Dr. Laura Carstensen, director of the Stanford Center on Longevity, explained in an American Psychological Association article: “Greater attention is paid to seeking emotional rewards through meaningful activities.”

This underscores how, for older adults with cognitive challenges like Josh’s, tapping into lifelong passions like chess can enhance emotional well-being by providing purpose and joy, aligning with socioemotional selectivity theory where limited time horizons prioritize emotionally gratifying experiences.

Here, it nails why Josh’s animation was a win: reigniting his champion identity provided purpose in a sea of sameness. Yet Carstensen’s caveat on “daily rhythms” echoes the staff’s schedule obsession – OP’s heart was in the right place, but a quick supervisor heads-up could’ve synced the passion with protocols.

Neutral ground? Absolutely do it again, but smarter: Loop in management for official sign-off, cap sessions at two hours with built-in snack breaks, and frame Bob as a recurring “volunteer enrichment guest” to dodge side-eye. This way, the OP could amplify the therapy without the turbulence.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Many comments praise OP for bringing joy and purpose to a dementia resident.

Confident_Macaron_15 − NTA - you helped him feel alive again, with purpose.

Something that nursing homes should be doing for residents everyday. Well done,

and keep bringing your creativity and humanity to these wonderful humans. They deserve it

[Reddit User] − NTA - I am an RN and I have spent a lot of time around the elderly. This started when I was very young, long before becoming...

I say all of this really not knowing what your role is in this facility. I want you to know that what you did was a wonderful thing.

You went above and beyond and gave Josh a day to remember, even if just for a little while.

I hope that you will consider a career that involves taking care of others, nursing, occupational therapy, care management etc.

Thank you for going the extra mile to make his day!

MySweetAudrina − I work in long term care as a CNA. I cannot tell you how many times

I find out about a person's particular interests FAR too late to do something like this. These older folks are barely living sometimes and to bring a little joy is...

Some people say maintain routines but continue the thoughtful activity.

CaeruleumBleu − NAH but you may have caused issues for night shift -

having a resident that far off schedule may impact how he behaves in the nighttime after you leave, if he rests ok, if he's difficult in the morning, etc.

Also, delays on dinner may affect medications, when they can be taken, how effective they are.

I would say, if you think about taking Bob back there again, let Bob know "hey his dinner is at X time, you need to wrap it up around then."

If he's in a good mental place when they finish a game but it's nearly dinner, maybe Bob can get him to talk about his tournaments instead?

Editing to add - if you bring Bob back and your coworkers get annoyed, tell them you didn't expect them to play so long last time

but you warned Bob about dinner time this time.

Readsumthing − NTA with caveats. I’m a private, live in caregiver for a dementia client.

Overall what you did sounds SUPER therapeutic and helpful! Boredom and depression are always part of this disease.

However one of the major things to keep them stable and managed is PREDICTABILITY.

Their minds are slipping away and knowing that lunch is at such and such time, meds are at such and such…are a source of comfort.

My lady can get really confused and set back when she’s put off of her schedule too much.

My advice is to keep the chess!!! Just be sure to get your friend on board with complying with meals and such. Go sound like a GREAT CAREGIVER!

allora1 − NAH. You did something thoughtful for Josh, but you did muck up his schedule by so doing.

People with dementia can really get thrown out if their schedules are interrupted.

Things like unfamiliar environments, changes to meal time routines, disrupted sleep/wake cycles etc. can transiently worsen confusion

and behavior patterns in dementia, as people commonly decompensate really easily.

As such, though Josh really enjoyed himself, he may have been completely out of whack and agitated afterwards,

making the task of caring for him much harder for your colleagues. It's OK if you didn't know this, but your colleagues clearly do.

Next time, you'll know keep the routines in place but still hopefully go out of your way to do kind things.

Others suggest scaling back time or organizing future sessions properly.

OGBrewSwayne − A guy nearing the end of his life who has probably outlived most relatives

and practically every friend he's ever had was able to spend a few hours doing something he has a life-long passion for.

That's incredible and it was awesome of you to go out of your way to make that happen.

However... "they went into one of the common rooms and played chess for 6 hours straight.

I wasn't able to stick around to watch most of it", This might have been a bit much, especially since you weren't around for most of it.

You know his physical and mental condition far better than I do, so maybe it's no big deal, but 6 hours seems like a long time.

It doesn't make you TA at all, but you might want to scale that back a little bit in the future,

or at least make sure he's able to eat when he's supposed to. Overall, great job, OP. Keep it up. NTA.

fantasticbrainrot − NTA, you are a light in this world for getting to know your patients and providing them with entertainment and socialization.

Please do it again, but talk to upper management and maybe get into the habit of hosting special guest volunteers for game nights.

[Reddit User] − Perhaps you should have a conversation with someone in charge of patient management

to figure out the best way to accommodate another session. Maybe the facility could make an event out of it with other patients.

This chess caper reminds us that nursing homes aren’t just about clockwork meals. They’re stages for stolen moments of glory, if navigated with a dash of planning.

Do you think the Redditor’s spontaneous spark justified the schedule scramble, or should they have pumped the brakes for Josh’s sake?

How would you orchestrate a passion revival without ruffling feathers? Drop your hot takes to keep the conversation checkmating boredom!

Jeffrey Stone

Jeffrey Stone

Jeffrey Stone is a valuable freelance writer at DAILY HIGHLIGHT. As a senior entertainment and news writer, Jarvis brings a wealth of expertise in the field, specifically focusing on the entertainment industry.

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