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Man Refuses To Give Up Bacon In His Own Home To Please His Vegan Daughter, Is He Wrong?

by Leona Pham
November 25, 2025
in Social Issues

It’s never easy when family members’ choices start to clash, especially when it comes to something as personal as food. One dad has been trying his best to support his daughter’s decision to go vegan, but things have gotten a little out of hand when she asked him to completely ban meat from their house. He’s made plenty of compromises, but bacon? That’s where he’s drawing the line.

His wife is on his daughter’s side, but the dad can’t help but feel like this is a step too far. Should he change his ways to keep the peace, or is this just something his daughter will have to get used to? Scroll down to see how this tricky situation plays out and whether this dad will be able to find a solution.

A father struggles with his daughter’s vegan lifestyle and his love for cooking meat

Man Refuses To Give Up Bacon In His Own Home To Please His Vegan Daughter, Is He Wrong?
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'WIBTA for refusing to stop cooking bacon in my kitchen due to my teenage daughter's vegan lifestyle?'

Dad here, old fart, loves his daughter to pieces but I’m struggling to see eye to eye with my teenager and wife on this one.

We’ve always been a meat eating family, we live in the rural Midwest and bacon for breakfast is pretty much a given.

This year my 14 y/o daughter decided to go vegan, and I jumped onto her support team with enthusiasm.

We learned how to substitute ingredients, cook new things, try new things,

and I adjusted our budget to include more expensive vegan substitutes for her, etc.

None of this has been a problem for me until recently. She saw me cook bacon in a pan, and then I rinsed it out to load in the dishwasher.

She exploded in anger (teen years, I’m not too fussed about the anger explosion, I know she doesn’t mean it)

and said that that was HER pan for vegan food.

I was completely floored and said, kiddo this here is a family pan, older than you, it’s not YOUR pan.

She asked me to purchase her a pan that she can solely use for vegan food.

I didn’t want her to feel weird about food, so I said sure, and ordered her a few colored ones that are only for her.

The reason they’re colored is so it helps me remember that I’m not to touch them unless I’m cooking vegan.

That wasn’t good enough. Now apparently the dishwasher is ‘contaminated’ with animal product,

and the fridge has ‘bacon grease fingers’ on it (because I eat bacon and then touch the fridge)

and she’s asked me and her mom to completely stop eating meat at home.

I don’t mean I literally touch the fridge with greasy bacon hands, because I wash my hands, but it’s clearly enough that it upsets my daughter.

Frankly I’m on team hell no, her mom is much more amenable and strongly wants me to consider taking our daughter up on the request.

My wife’s reasoning is that both our parents live close so we can eat meat products there,

and that she doesn’t want our daughter to feel uncomfortable in the kitchen.

My daughter says she is fine with cheese and butter in the fridge, but it’s specifically meat products that make her feel sick.

Now I’m sorry for her, but I feel like she just needs to adapt and live side by side, because I’m not going to stop eating bacon in my own...

When someone you call a friend or family member chooses a significantly different value system, especially around something as familiar as food, the emotional fallout can feel more like friction than adaptation.

In this scenario, the father (OP) deeply values his long‑standing family tradition of cooking bacon, while his teenage daughter has adopted a vegan lifestyle. OP’s feelings of frustration, resistance and confusion are understandable. Simultaneously, his daughter’s request for the house to avoid meat reflects her evolving self‑identity and ethical alignment.

From a psychological angle, OP’s decision, refusing to stop cooking bacon despite his daughter’s request, can be interpreted as a reaction to the perceived loss of his routine and personal autonomy. Habit‑formation literature suggests that once a behavior becomes automatic, disrupting it can feel like losing a piece of one’s identity.

Meanwhile, his daughter’s veganism is far more than a diet change: it’s becoming part of her identity. Social‑psychological research shows that veganism often includes moral and ethical beliefs, group identity and lifestyle norms, not just what someone eats.

Her emotional reaction, feeling the kitchen is “contaminated” with animal products, suggests that for her the presence of meat signals a disconnect between her values and her environment.

OP’s resistance may be less about bacon itself and more about perceiving his personal space and family traditions as being challenged. His daughter’s stance may be less about disliking his bacon and more about wanting her living environment to align with her evolving identity. When these two dynamics clash, the kitchen becomes symbolic territory. This isn’t just breakfast; it’s belief, respect and recognition.

While OP’s desire to maintain his food habits is valid, it’s also worth recognizing his daughter’s need for coherence between her values and her surroundings.

A successful resolution might involve a compromise rather than a standoff. For instance, designating certain cooking tools or zones for vegan foods, or setting specific times for meat‑free meals, could honour both tradition and change. It acknowledges that identity matters just as much as bacon does.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

This group defends the OP, emphasizing the importance of compromise

DoffyTrash − NTA. Get her a special sponge she can use to wash her own dishes so she didn't have to use the "tainted" dishwasher.

TheRagingScientist − As a teen who’s trying to go vegetarian, your daughter is acting ridiculous. “The dish washing machine’s tainted”?

What kind of bull is that? And she shouldn’t be forcing you guys to go vegan in your own house if you don’t want to.

You’ve been very supportive as it is, buying separate pans.

YWNBTA Edit: and, if she really wants to change your diet, she should try and give you info on how bad the meat and dairy industry is,

and how unhealthy large amounts of meat are for the modern human, yadaydayada. Then you guys make your own choices on what you want to eat.

Edit 2: I’m gonna take this time to say that 1: please, regardless of if you’re a meat eater, vegan, vegetarian, whatever.

Please be civil in discussions over this. If you want to be pissed off over something, this really shouldn’t be it.

2: I really didn’t want to start any debates but whatever.

Just take everything anyone (and I include myself) say with a grain of salt if they don’t provide links to a credible source.

Honestly it’s been nice just talking to people getting varying opinions on this subject,

but I’m starting to see a bit of hate flow through a few people just showing up.

LifeExplorer64 − NTA many vegans cohabitate successfully with meat eaters, your daughter is pushing the line here and being unreasonable.

You have gone out of your way to support her dietary choices (I'm assuming that she washes her own pans and dishes

by hand herself rather than using the contaminated dishwasher lol)

it is time for her to learn how to coexist peacefully with people that don't think exactly like she does.

I think you wife is 100% wrong here and is trying to take the easy way to avoid an angsty teenager being difficult...

this is a fantastic learning experience for your daughter in tolerance and compromise.

These users acknowledge that while the daughter is new to veganism

purplegirl1511 − NTA, and I say that as a vegan. "cross contamination" is BS that militant vegans

make up to make themselves feel superior to other vegans. And she has to understand that there's going to be meat around.

I get that it upsets her, really, but unless she only lives with vegans for the rest of her life, this is something she is going to have to get...

A compromise might be too keep the meat in a drawer in the fridge rather than getting rid of it altogether.

She's young, and a new vegan, so the good news is that she will probably grow out of/ease up on it.

When you first go vegan you're so excited and feel so enlightened, like no one ever figured this out before you.

Then you get a little jaded and relax a bit. Try to tough it out and keep talking to her.

But no, you do not need to stop making/storing meat in your house just for her.

Edit: I am very clearly not talking about cross contamination when it comes to food allergies.

Zauberspruch − NTA. She's 14. There is no middle ground at 14. My condolences, as it's going to be a long winter.

PommeDeSang − Pfft had a vegan roommate in the past. He used the fridge and dishwasher just fine.

Time for a real world lesson for her, she's not always gonna live with people who share her food lifestyle.

She's got to learn to compromise. There is no reason to inconvenience yourselves and others because she's being a dramatic teen.

13rahma − NTA. You're already being as supporting as you can, but at the end of the day it's your house.

You don't need to bend the knee to your daughter over this.

This group believes the daughter is taking her dietary choices too far

RonDeGrasseDawtchins − NTA, obviously. You've been supportive of her new diet choice

and have been very accommodating by getting her pans to use for vegan food.

She can't expect you to change your whole lifestyle to cater to her.

Meat needs to be kept in the fridge, and if the dishwasher is tainted then maybe she should try washing a dish by hand GASP.

brandonnavi − You know the answer, I'm assuming this is for your wife You are accommodating despite it being irrational.

It's now being pushed to a new level of irrational.

Explain to your daughter that you're trying to be as accommodating as possible

but this is too far for you and there's no grounds for farther arguing because you don't have the same perspective as her.

She might be mad at you, but when she has her own living space and gets to make the rules,

she might understand why you don't want to be forced to go elsewhere to eat.

justducky01 − NTA Your wife needs to stop enabling this entitlement kids are growing up with. Your teenage daughter wanted to go vegan?

Fine. But she made that decision while living in a house of meat eaters.

If she wants to do the extra work of hand-washing her dishes, buy herself a special fridge, etc. , sure.

You've already done enough to support this, including spending more money on groceries and buying her her own pots and pans.

The selfishness needs to end. There's no reason anyone should have to completely uproot their way of life because of a decision someone else made.

Withamoomoohere − NTA You sound super cool, to adjust your eating habits and offering buy her a new set of pans.

But yikes, just like you would never force your lifestyle on her, she can't force hers on you. Is this a recent behavior?

Because that's the same type of extremist vegan behavior that puts a lot of people off from veganism

These commenters suggest the daughter may be rebelling or exerting control

Compromise - She has her own cookware and her own meat free section of the fridge.

Hennahands − NTA, but this actually sounds really complicated.

Teenage girls can have very contentious relationships with food, and that can express themselves in a lot of ways.

I think you need to get more information going forward. She might just be a teen pushing limits and seeing what she can control.

She might also genuinely be struggling with ideas about, “cleanliness” as it related to food.

[Reddit User] − NTA. ..This is about control. She trying to control your actions that dont actually effect her.

It's a sneaky way to rebel and take charge. You have been more than accommodating. Tell her she's not allowed to make choices for other people.

SoMuchMoreEagle − NTA. She's vegan, not keeping kosher, ffs. You have been supportive up to this point and now she's seriously pushing it.

When she has her own place that she pays for, she can dictate what food is kept and cooked there,

but you all shouldn't have to completely alter your lives to accommodate her.

Do you think the dad’s refusal to stop cooking bacon is justified, or should he make more sacrifices for his daughter? Share your thoughts below!

Leona Pham

Leona Pham

Hi, I'm Leona. I'm a writer for Daily Highlight and have had my work published in a variety of other media outlets. I'm also a New York-based author, and am always interested in new opportunities to share my work with the world. When I'm not writing, I enjoy spending time with my family and friends. Thanks for reading!

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