Student Called Model ‘Short and Fat’ After Fat-Positivity Speech Goes Awry

A teenage public speaking class turned into a full-on body image battlefield.

In one corner you have an 18-year-old girl whose TikTok feed celebrates fat-positivity, dance moves and body pride. In the other, a tall model walking fashion week, quietly sitting through a speech that seems aimed straight at her.

When the activist told classmates that modelling had no place because the tall-skinny runway girls were “freaks,” things escalated. At lunch she accused the model of disordered eating and sniped “you’re only allowed to walk because you’re tall and skinny.”

The model fired back with “you’re short and fat,” and suddenly the mask came off: accusations, body-shaming, and big words.

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My heart sank reading it. A class meant to build speaking skills turned into a micro-war of identity and body politics. I felt for both of them. On one side a student trying to advocate for inclusion and saying “enough of tall skinny freak-models.”

On the other, a student who is that tall skinny figure, feeling attacked for simply existing. I could hear the frustration in your voice when you said the comment didn’t seem like a big deal to you because on paper she does claim to champion being fat and proud. Yet your remark hit a nerve.

Something about the simplicity of body-commenting shifted the vibe from debate to insult. This feeling of isolation, this feeling of being boxed in by someone’s ideology, is textbook teenage conflict.

Here’s the core issue: The activist’s arguments attacked a category (“tall & skinny models”), you responded by attacking a specific person’s body (“short and fat”). The line between critique of an ideal and critiquing a person is fragile—especially in school.

Body-shaming is real. Research shows that “body shaming” among teens isn’t just hurtful, it links to mental health harm, lowered self-esteem, disordered eating and social withdrawal.

One recent study found body shaming targeting teens’ physical constitution raised the odds of negative outcomes up to 21 times.

Meanwhile, fat positivity scholars remind us: “Fat bodies are not problems to be solved; they are beautiful, valuable and deserving of love.”

And: “Fat positivity isn’t about ‘glorifying obesity’ … it’s about self-acceptance and self-love, and the desire to be treated fairly in the world.”

So what’s going on here? The activist is clearly embracing body-positivity. But then her approach—that tall, skinny models are “weird” or “freaks”—shifts from celebrating fat bodies into shaming thin bodies. That duplicates the very dynamic fat-positivity aims to disrupt: body-hierarchies.

You, meanwhile, responded with a body-based remark. Even if she says being fat is beautiful, being called “short and fat” by someone else typically triggers the same negative emotional circuit: shame, exposure, attack. Context matters: tone, pronouns, power, public setting.

Here are some neutral, actionable insights:

• If you don’t want to be attacked for your body, avoid attacking someone else’s. Responding to insult with insult escalates things into a bullying cycle.

• If someone uses body size as their platform (your class speech), you can critique the argument rather than the body. Eg: “I respect body diversity, but I disagree with the claim that modelling should be illegal – can you clarify why banning something is the solution?” That preserves dignity and shifts focus from “you/your body” to “your argument.”

• To reduce harm, we need to treat bodies as neutral vessels, not moral statements. As the activist’s own movement says: equality, respect, fairness.

• Educators and peers play a role. When two students clash like this, adult facilitation can help avoid the “public spectacle” dynamic.

In sum: you were within your rights to feel targeted and stand up for yourself. But the moment you called her “short and fat” you crossed into body-shaming territory even if she claims pride in being fat.

Words carry weight because of social context and emotional history. The activist’s initial behavior was flawed (shaming tall/skinny), and your behavior mirrored it. That leaves us at ESH (Everyone Sucks Here).

Check out how the community responded:

Team OP (giving the student credit for being annoyed):

Calling out hypocrisy / critique of the activist:

Doubting the story / skeptical tone:

So where does this all land? The story holds a mirror up to two young people caught in a body-image storm: one wielding activism but veering into shaming, the other defending their identity but responding with an insult. When bodies become battlegrounds, everybody loses.

What do you think? Was your reply fair reaction, or did it go too far into body shaming? And was the activist justified in targeting you for being “tall & skinny,” or did she cross a line by making body size the whole argument?