If you’re the “tech person” in your family, you know the pain. You are the on-call, unpaid, 24/7 Geek Squad for every forgotten password and lagging video game. A 24-year-old computer science student was living this nightmare in a BIG way.
She was drowning in requests from her huge, tech-illiterate family until one day, she snapped. Her solution was a stroke of pure, unadulterated genius. But while the internet is giving her a standing ovation, her family is giving her the silent treatment.
Here’s the story that every family “IT guy” needs to read:
Honestly, you have to admire the sheer audacity of it. The frustration in this story is so thick you could cut it with a knife. This wasn’t just about resetting a few passwords. This was a non-stop barrage of demands from an entire household that had zero respect for her time, her studies, or her work.
Her solution, the help desk, wasn’t just a funny gimmick. It was a desperate attempt to build a boundary where none existed. And her family’s reaction, the intervention, says everything you need to know. They weren’t mad because she was being “unhelpful.”
They were mad because their free, instant, on-demand servant was suddenly offline.
The Unpaid Labor of the Family Tech Whiz
This story is a perfect storm of two incredibly draining things: “weaponized incompetence” and unpaid emotional labor. The family, especially the kids who should know better, are choosing to be helpless because it’s easier to bother the OP than to spend 30 seconds Googling a solution.
This burden of being the family’s problem-solver, organizer, and tech support disproportionately falls on women. It’s a type of invisible work that goes unrecognized until the person doing it finally stops.
According to a 2022 Gallup poll, women in heterosexual partnerships are still significantly more likely than their male partners to manage the household’s social calendar and children’s activities. This dynamic often extends to other “management” tasks, like, say, being the family’s full-time IT department.
The OP’s “Help Desk” was her way of professionalizing this unpaid role in an attempt to control it. Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward, describes this kind of work as being “the unpaid, invisible work we do to keep those around us comfortable and happy.”
When the OP stopped prioritizing her family’s comfort over her own sanity, they didn’t see it as a reasonable boundary. They saw it as a personal attack. And that “manly ways” comment from her mom? That’s just the cherry on top, revealing an ugly truth: in their eyes, a woman setting a firm boundary is acting out of line.
The internet’s verdict was swift and clear.
The overwhelming majority of Reddit users were in awe of the OP’s solution, calling it nothing short of brilliant.
Many Redditors zeroed in on the mother’s “manly ways” comment, identifying it as a major red flag for sexism and outdated expectations.
Fellow tech professionals chimed in, sharing their own horror stories and pro-tips for dealing with entitled family members.
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How to Set Tech Boundaries Without Starting a Family War
Okay, so maybe launching a full-blown help desk with a ticketing system is a bit of an escalation. If you find yourself in a similar (though probably less intense) situation, there are a few things you can try before you start buying domain names.
First, try designating “office hours.” Let your family know that you’re happy to help, but only between certain times, like after 7 PM on weekdays. This respects their need for help while also protecting your own time.
Second, become a teacher, not just a fixer. Instead of just resetting the password for them, walk them through the process so they can learn to do it themselves. Yes, it takes more time upfront, but it’s an investment in your future sanity. The goal is to make them self-sufficient so that bothering you becomes the less convenient option.
In the End…
This isn’t just a funny story about tech problems. It’s a story about respect. The OP wasn’t unhelpful; she was just demanding that her help be treated with a baseline level of consideration. Her family’s outrage shows that they had gotten so used to her free labor that they now see it as their right. Let’s hope that threat to move out makes them realize what they stand to lose.
So, what do you think? Was the help desk a stroke of genius, or was it a step too far? Are you the designated tech support in your family? Tell us your stories in the comments!
