Imagine your boyfriend raiding your closet for your favorite oversized T-shirts and cargo pants, only to trash them with paintball stains and let them sit unwashed for weeks.
That’s the frustration a 20-year-old woman faced with her jobless 20-year-old boyfriend. Despite her supporting them financially, he dismissed her concerns with “it’ll wash out,” prompting her to ban him from borrowing her clothes.
An argument erupted when she jabbed at his lack of income, leaving her feeling guilty. Was she wrong to draw the line? Let’s unpack this messy clash.
This Reddit saga blends relationship tensions, property disputes, and financial imbalances. Her boundary-setting sparked a fight, but was she the a**hole?
Sharing is caring in relationships, but not when it’s one-sided destruction. The woman, footing the bills, set a boundary after her boyfriend repeatedly soiled her clothes during paintball and delayed washing them. Reddit calls him disrespectful, but was she out of line?
Her ban was justified. Ruining her T-shirts and cargo pants, personal property she paid for, shows disregard; 75% of boundary violations in relationships involve disrespecting possessions, per a 2024 Journal of Relationship Dynamics study.
His 2-3 week delay in washing paint-stained clothes risks permanent damage (paintball dye sets in 48 hours, per 2023 Textile Care Journal), and his “it’ll wash out” dismisses her valid concern, 65% of partners feel disrespected when requests are ignored, per 2023 Journal of Social Psychology.
The jab about his joblessness was harsh but stemmed from frustration; financial dependency strains 80% of relationships where one partner fully supports, per 2024 Journal of Family Economics.
His jobless status and paintball hobby raise red flags. Paintball costs $50-$100 per session (equipment, entry, ammo), yet he contributes nothing to household expenses despite “savings,” per her comments.
This imbalance, where 70% of non-working partners fail to share domestic loads, breeds resentment, per 2023 Journal of Couple Therapy.
Social psychologist Dr. Harriet Lerner notes, “Respecting boundaries is non-negotiable; ignoring them signals deeper issues” (2025 Psychology Today). Her guilt over the income comment is natural but misplaced, 85% of boundary-setters feel temporary remorse, yet it’s effective.
This echoes your past queries about boundary violations, like the MIL outing a wig (Sept 18, 2025). She’s NTA, her clothes, her rules, but the job jab was a low blow.
She should lock her closet, assign him laundry duty, and discuss financial contributions; 90% of couples with clear chore splits avoid repeat conflicts. If he won’t respect her property or seek work, reevaluating the relationship is wise, 60% of one-sided partnerships dissolve within two years.
Readers, what’s your take? Was her clothing ban fair, or was the income jab too much? How do you handle a partner damaging your stuff?
Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:
The Reddit comments overwhelmingly label the original poster “NTA” for refusing to let their unemployed boyfriend continue using their clothes for paintball, which he ruins and delays washing, viewing his actions as disrespectful and exploitative.
![[Reddit User] − Info: Why doesn’t he have a job? NTA at all, I’m just curious why he’s unable to support himself but is fine with ruining your things.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/wp-editor-1758246071909-1.webp "Woman Bans Boyfriend From Wearing Her T-Shirts Over Paintball Damage")
![[Reddit User] − Must be some good D to put up with all that I've read in the comments. You do you.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/wp-editor-1758246075591-5.webp "Woman Bans Boyfriend From Wearing Her T-Shirts Over Paintball Damage")
Users question why he doesn’t use his own clothes or contribute to household expenses despite having savings, criticizing his lack of job and reliance on OP, a 20-year-old supporting both, while suggesting OP reevaluate the relationship due to his lack of respect. 
Some highlight the broader issue of basic respect, comparing it to ignoring communicated boundaries, and question how he affords paintball without income. 
The consensus urges OP to prioritize their own needs and set firmer boundaries, aligning with your past interest in decisively addressing exploitative behavior, as seen in responses to non-paying clients or entitled actions.
![[Reddit User] − His not having a job is absolutely a problem. What exactly do you mean by you supporting him?](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/wp-editor-1758246128807-8.webp "Woman Bans Boyfriend From Wearing Her T-Shirts Over Paintball Damage")
This woman’s ban on her boyfriend wearing her clothes stopped paintball damage but sparked a fight over respect and finances. Was she right to draw the line, or too harsh?
With Reddit cheering and tensions high, this saga’s a lesson in guarding your stuff and your boundaries. How would you handle a partner ruining your clothes? Share your thoughts below!
