What’s the price of a magical wedding? For one Redditor, apparently, it’s exactly £20,000—and she believes her brother should be footing the bill. Why? Because he’s a doctor. And because she has a kid.
A dramatic family feud sparked when this 23-year-old bride-to-be decided that her child-free, financially comfortable brother should be more generous. He offered a respectable £5,000 gift—but that wasn’t enough. Now, he’s been branded “selfish,” uninvited from the wedding, and publicly shamed in the family group chat. Grab some popcorn, because Reddit is not holding back. Want the tea? Check out the full story below.
One woman’s quest for a dream wedding turned into a family feud when she demanded a massive sum from her brother
Planning a wedding should be exciting—but for this Reddit user, it turned into a showdown over sibling boundaries, expectations, and a wildly inflated sense of entitlement.
At first glance, the poster paints herself as a struggling student and young mom who simply wants a dream wedding. Her brother, a doctor with no kids, is “well off” and thus, in her view, owes her financial help. He generously offers £5,000—a gift many would consider jaw-droppingly kind—but she deems it insufficient. The ask? £20,000. The reaction? Fury and a revoked wedding invite.
Let’s unpack the emotional cocktail at play here: resentment, financial envy, and a hint of martyrdom. The poster sees her life as harder than her brother’s—and assumes that entitles her to a portion of his success. According to Emotion Hacks, “Entitlement is the belief that you are inherently deserving of certain privileges, special treatment, or rewards without necessarily earning them,” and it often arises in families when one member sacrifices more than the other. But sacrifice doesn’t guarantee reimbursement—especially not in five figures.
Interestingly, this Reddit drama also highlights a generational clash around weddings. According to a 2022 Hitched UK survey, the average UK wedding cost around £18,400. While some couples trim the budget, others push beyond their means—often leaning on relatives. But as financial therapist Amanda Clayman notes, “Giving should come from love, not obligation. Once it’s demanded, it’s no longer a gift.”
Even more telling is the punishment: disinviting her brother for refusing a request that was never his responsibility in the first place. That isn’t just emotional—it’s manipulative. Family expert and author Dr. Joshua Coleman warns, “When family support becomes transactional, relationships crumble.”
This could’ve been a heartfelt moment: accepting what’s offered with gratitude, budgeting creatively, and cherishing what truly matters—the marriage itself. But instead, it’s become a cautionary tale in wedding entitlement.
The internet did not hold back, and Redditors delivered brutal honesty wrapped in sarcasm and logic. Let’s take a look at their reactions.
This Redditor laughed off her demand, noting her brother didn’t have to.
One commenter laughed off her demand, noting her brother’s £5,000 was already generous.
A shocked reader wondered why someone would expect a “dream wedding” funded by someone else’s labor.
This commenter dryly noted that if she wanted doctor-level income, she should’ve gone to medical school herself.
This user argued OP should’ve taken the £5,000 and not pushed for more.
Another suggested a budget wedding, calling £20,000 excessive for a sibling’s gift.
This Redditor told OP to get a job for her dream wedding, not demand handouts.
One Redditor branded her a rude brat for assuming she’s owed her brother’s money.
Another person mocked the £20,000 ask, urging a wedding within her means.
One commenter called her entitled for rejecting £5,000 over cat-sitting favors.
This commenter thinks the OP is being incredibly entitled and ungrateful—especially after being offered a generous £5,000.
This user calls out the OP for expecting money from her brother, saying having kids was her choice and a big wedding isn’t a necessity—especially after being offered £5,000.
This commenter breaks it down: rude to ask, greedy to want more, petty to ban your brother—your wedding budget isn’t his responsibility
This commenter is stunned by the entitlement—calls out the logic gap and says if you wanted the dream wedding, you should’ve earned it yourself.
At the heart of this viral wedding drama is a lesson as old as sibling rivalry itself: love is not a transaction. Demanding tens of thousands from a brother just because he earns more isn’t a bold ask—it’s a breakdown in perspective. OP wanted a fairy tale wedding, but instead may have cast herself as the villain.
Do you think her brother was right to hold his ground? Was she justified in asking for more support? Or did this bride take “dream wedding” a little too literally? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!
