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Woman Ditches Cooking Thanksgiving Feast For More Than 30 People To Bask Alone On Florida’s Sun-Kissed Beach

by Jeffrey Stone
December 3, 2025
in Social Issues

A 27-year-old woman, drained from eight years of single-handedly whipping up a Thanksgiving feast for a ballooning crowd, faces a family uproar after choosing sand over stove this year. Her Caribbean clan’s dietary demands – vegan, pescatarian, meat-lover chaos – turn her kitchen into a high-stakes culinary battlefield, complete with three turkeys and homemade pies.

Recently separated, she’s emotionally spent, craving a beachside escape over her usual holiday hustle. Reddit’s buzzing with takes on her bold move, debating if she’s a self-care queen or a family tradition traitor. Is her sandy rebellion justified, or is she leaving her loved ones hungry?

Woman skips cooking Thanksgiving for 30+ people to relax at the beach.

Woman Ditches Cooking Thanksgiving Feast For More Than 30 People To Bask Alone On Florida’s Sun-Kissed Beach
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'AITA for not cooking thanksgiving dinner and spending the day at the beach instead?'

I (27f) have solely been responsible for cooking Thanksgiving dinner for 20+ people for the last 8 years. I do all the shopping, cooking and setting up.

Months before Thanksgiving I start looking at grocery prices and tweaking recipes to fit dietary restrictions

(Caribbean family, vegans and pescatarians, meat eaters). I also make enough for the college aged kids to have left overs.

I usually make 3 turkeys, 2 party pans of mac and cheese and a party pan of mashed potatoes, stuffing,

green bean casserole, collard greens, yams, mini seafood quiches, stuffed mushrooms, rolls and a salad from scratch.

Plus all the desserts apple pie, sweet potato pie, cheesecake, homemade ice cream and. breads also from scratch.

I start making stocks and doughs Tuesday night. I bake my bread for stuffing and make my cheesecake and pies Wednesday after work.

Cook all day Thursday so we can sit down and start eating at by 4 so my aunts who work the nights shift as nurses can enjoy.

Every year people invite unexpected guest and it becomes 30+. I would be ok if it were plus ones but my mom invites her friends and their kids.

My mom and aunt ask me to make additional turkeys and some sides for their units.

I never feel appreciated for everything I do to make it special and accommodate everyone.

This year I’m separated from my husband and I really don’t feel like bending over backwards cooking for people

who don’t even leave me left overs to make a sandwich the next day.

This year I’ve decided not to cook and just spend my day at the beach, the only bonus to living in. Florida.

I was asked how much the adults should Zelle me for thanksgiving groceries at the beginning of the month and I told them I’m not cooking.

Today I received a Zelle from my uncle and when I returned it he asked why, I reminded him and the family group chat I wasn’t cooking.

Now they want me to cancel my plans and cook. Am I the AH for not wanting to?

EDIT: This is my favorite holiday but my separation has left me emotionally exhausted and without any passion to cook.

EDIT 2: I don’t actually mind the cooking for my family, I look forward to it. The unexpected guest a little.

The thing bothering me is that I expected to do this year is that I wanted to celebrate the only holiday I look forward to with my husband.

I wanted to share the dishes that I love and scheduled chaos with him. I’m upset because I don’t get my husband.

They may not understand it but I took on this holiday because I enjoyed it.

Talk about a Thanksgiving plot twist! This Redditor’s decision to trade her apron for a beach towel is a masterclass in setting boundaries, or a recipe for family chaos, depending on who you ask.

For eight years, she’s been the unsung hero of her family’s holiday, juggling three turkeys, vegan sides, and enough desserts to stock a bakery, all while her mom’s surprise guests turn her carefully planned feast into a free-for-all.

Her separation adds a heartbreaking layer. She wanted to share this tradition with her husband, and now that dream’s gone, leaving her kitchen mojo in shambles.

The family’s audacity is next-level. Inviting extra guests without warning and expecting her to whip up additional dishes for their coworkers? That’s for sure not gratitude, it’s entitlement with a side of gall. No leftovers for the chef who slaved for days? Rude.

Reddit’s right to call this unfair. Her family’s been treating her like a personal caterer, not a loved one. The emotional toll of her separation only amplifies her need for a break. Cooking for 30+ while grieving a marriage sounds like a one-way ticket to Burnout City.

Still, her family’s not entirely villainous. Thanksgiving’s a big deal, and her culinary wizardry set a high bar. Her abrupt “I’m out” via group chat might’ve felt like a cold splash of water to relatives counting on tradition.

A heads-up conversation could’ve softened the blow, maybe even rallied help, someone else could’ve tackled the yams or pies. But expecting her to carry the whole holiday solo is a turkey-sized ask. As a result, her self-preservation comes in beach day.

Her story’s a wake-up call: traditions shouldn’t crush the one making them happen. Families need to share the load – potluck style, as one Redditor suggested – or risk losing the magic.

Her emotional exhaustion from the separation makes this year different, and her family’s failure to see that stings. She’s earned her day in the sun. Let her sip a drink with a tiny umbrella and let someone else wrestle the turkeys.

The broader lesson here is balance. Holiday traditions thrive on love, not obligation. Her family needs to step up or scale down, and she needs to communicate her limits earlier. It’s not about sharing a duty, not ditching it.

Her beach day might just spark a new tradition, one where everyone pitches in, or at least says “thank you” with leftovers.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Some praise OP for refusing to be the family’s unpaid caterer and encourage the beach getaway.

[Reddit User] − NTA You are going through something right now with the separation

and the fact that all of these people have somehow started relying on only you to provide the meal is insane.

My family has always done assigned dishes for each branch of the family. Expecting one person to do ALL of the planning and cooking is too much.

Someone else can step up, or they can skip Thanksgiving this year. Either way, have fun at the beach.

MaIngallsisaracist − NTA. Enjoy your time at the beach. Get a drink with a little umbrella in it and toast your newfound freedom.

HypersomnicHysteric − NTA So you don't want to play the free maid for everybody anymore? Good for you!

Others criticize the family’s entitlement and lack of help or gratitude.

Antique_Ad_4413 − Nta, I'm a professional chef and that is a tremendous amount of food you were cooking, with basically no help.

Enjoy the beach stick your feet in the sand dip a toe in the water and eat a turkey sandwich from a deli.

If anyone complains tell them this is their year to cook. Let them deal with uninvited guests dietary restrictions all those desserts

and then have everybody eat their food and walk away and leave the cook no leftovers.

Top-Bar3863 − Absolutely NTA. Your family has some serious audacity. Can't even say they treat you like a caterer as that would mean,

they'd have to inform you of changes in the guest count not to mention there's usually more gratitude expressed.

The fact that they ask you to make even more food for their coworkers and don't even leave you leftovers

of the food you single-handedly spent hours making is just the cherry on the cake for me. Never cook for them again.

Some suggest a potluck or better communication to share the burden.

ymmudgnillorty − NTA for not wanting to cook for 20-30 people by yourself, that’s an insane amount of work.

Are you a professional chef or something? I can’t imagine why you’d ever agree to that and make it the norm in your family.

On the other hand you probably should have had a conversation with some of your family members that you felt burnt out this year

and would like help cooking since everyone was anticipating you cooking.

Just saying “I’m not cooking” is cold af, but I get it and I also get why you’re family’s mad at it.

Y’all gotta talk to each other and they should offer you help.

JTBoom1 − NTA, enjoy yourself, you deserve it! Let someone else shoulder the burden this year.

Something like this should be a rotating event and not rest on the shoulders of one person.

empathy10 − With that many people, your meal should be potluck style. I'm exhausted just reading what you have to do to put this together.

Hold firm and enjoy your day at the beach. Buy yourself a meal and relax. Perhaps someone in your family will step up but if not, it's entirely on them.

This Redditor’s beach-bound Thanksgiving rebellion is a bold stand, but communication could’ve saved some drama.

A family meeting to delegate dishes or scale back the guest list might restore holiday harmony. For now, she should soak up the Florida sun, guilt-free, because her mental health deserves it: a day on the beach, waves crashing, as she reclaims her holiday joy.

Was her sandy escape a fair move, or did she leave her family in a lurch? How would you handle a tradition that’s become a one-woman show? Drop your hot takes with us!

Jeffrey Stone

Jeffrey Stone

Jeffrey Stone is a valuable freelance writer at DAILY HIGHLIGHT. As a senior entertainment and news writer, Jarvis brings a wealth of expertise in the field, specifically focusing on the entertainment industry.

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