Co-parenting after a divorce can be challenging, especially when one parent refuses to fulfill their financial responsibilities. This woman’s ex-husband has a history of not paying child support, despite being able to do so, using it as a tactic to control her.
When she planned a trip abroad with their kids, he agreed but failed to ensure his passport was in order, leading to him being denied at the airport.
She proceeded with the trip, following the legal agreement, but now her family is divided on whether she should have given him a heads-up about his passport. Was she wrong for not warning him, or did he create his own problems? Keep reading to see what others think of her actions.
A mother takes her kids on a trip abroad after her ex-husband’s passport is revoked, and he complains about her not informing him
In this case, OP made a decision to go ahead with a planned trip with her children, despite the complications surrounding her ex-husband’s passport status.
From a legal standpoint, OP followed the terms outlined in the notarized agreement with her ex, which allowed him 72 hours to revoke permission for the trip. Given that her ex-husband did not do so within the allotted time frame, OP was within her rights to proceed with the travel plans.
Emotionally, the situation is more complicated. OP’s ex-husband’s reaction, expressing anger and accusing OP of “kidnapping” their children, appears to be fueled by feelings of frustration and powerlessness, likely stemming from the unresolved issues between them, such as the ongoing child support dispute.
Emotional responses after a divorce can often be magnified, especially when there are lingering feelings of resentment or a perceived loss of control.
In this case, OP’s ex-husband’s behavior seems to reflect this emotional tension. He might feel hurt or rejected by the changes in their family dynamics, which is not uncommon post-divorce.
OP, on the other hand, was likely motivated by a desire to protect herself and her children from ongoing emotional manipulation, particularly given her ex-husband’s history of withholding child support as a form of control.
Her decision to proceed with the trip, despite knowing he might have issues with it, could be seen as an attempt to move forward with her own life and take care of her children without being bogged down by past conflicts.
The question of whether OP should have alerted her ex-husband to the possibility of his passport issues is understandable.
While she may not have known for certain that his passport had been revoked, it’s reasonable to wonder if a brief communication, even if it was speculative, might have helped avoid some of the conflict. However, given the ongoing tension and her ex-husband’s tendency to manipulate situations,
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
This group agrees that the ex-husband’s actions, including not paying child support and ignoring official notifications, led to the consequences he’s facing
These commenters stress that the ex-husband’s issues are his own responsibility, from neglecting his obligations to attempting to follow the OP on trips
This group emphasizes that the ex-husband’s behavior is disruptive and controlling
What do you think? Was she wrong for not warning him? Did she do the right thing, or should she have warned him? Share your thoughts below!
