Picture a kitchen table stacked with receipts for diapers, formula, and pastel onesies—items that don’t belong to your household. That’s exactly what one single father discovered when he realized his teenage son had turned into a self-appointed co-parent, using his generous allowance to bankroll someone else’s baby.
The moment his 15-year-old asked for more money to keep up the spending, something in this father snapped. A heated argument erupted, voices rising until the walls felt too small to contain them. By the end, the father had slashed the allowance and told his son to keep quiet about it.
Since then, the house has been silent, except for the buzz of judgment from everyone who’s heard the story.
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This father, whom Reddit quickly dubbed Frugal Father, had always prided himself on giving his son freedom. The weekly allowance, anywhere from $50 to $70, was meant to teach responsibility without too many strings attached.
But over time, he began to notice that the money was disappearing faster than usual. It wasn’t going toward video games, clothes, or lunches out with friends. Instead, it was being spent on baby bottles, pacifiers, and diapers for the three-month-old child of his son’s best friend, a girl he’d known since kindergarten.
On one hand, Frugal Father couldn’t help but feel a flicker of pride. Most teenage boys wouldn’t even think to help a struggling young mother. His son’s sense of loyalty and compassion was rare.
On the other, he wondered when kindness had turned into obligation, and why he felt like he was subsidizing an entire household that wasn’t his own.
The breaking point came when his son asked for extra cash to “help out more.” In that moment, the father’s patience gave way to anger.
The Allowance Cut That Sparked a Standoff
Instead of negotiating, Frugal Father decided it was time for consequences. He told his son that if he insisted on spending his allowance this way, he could make do with less.
So he cut the weekly payment to $40 and ended the discussion with a curt order to drop the subject.
The fallout was immediate. The boy, usually chatty and warm, withdrew into a sullen quiet. Mealtimes became tense. They passed each other like strangers in the hallway, both convinced the other was being unreasonable.
Frugal Father told himself he was teaching a lesson about financial boundaries. But in his private moments, he wondered if he’d handled it badly. The son’s hurt wasn’t just about money, it was about feeling unsupported in something that mattered to him.
Parenting experts often say that teens learn best through collaboration, not punishment. Dr. Laura Markham has noted, “Teens need guidance to balance generosity with responsibility, parents can support their values while setting clear financial boundaries.”
Instead, the father had drawn a hard line without ever asking what this baby meant to his son, or whether there was more to the story than simple friendship.
Reddit’s dishing out takes hotter than a baby bottle warmer!
Reddit users mostly agreed with you and wondered if your son had other reasons for spending the money.
Some Redditors questioned why you gave him so much money to start with and wondered if you were only cutting it because you didn’t like how he spent it. Others asked if he could be the baby’s father or suggested he get a job if he wants more.
![[Reddit User] − I would say YTA only because your issue is how he’s spending his money, rather than the amount. I mean what do you want a teenage boy to spend his money on instead, are you aware what teenagers sometimes spend money on and that it can be wasted money anyway? Lol.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/2131245-13.jpg "Dad Punished His Son for Spending Money on a Friend’s Baby - Reasonable or Out of Line?")
Other commenters agreed you’re NTA, saying your son should work if he wants extra cash and warning he might be getting used by his friend.
![[Reddit User] − NTA, why in the hell should you pay for some stranger's baby? Your kid is being taken advantage of.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/2131245-20.jpg "Dad Punished His Son for Spending Money on a Friend’s Baby - Reasonable or Out of Line?")
Are these Redditors dropping parenting gold or just changing diapers? You decide!
Now, as the silence stretches on and Reddit debates whether he’s a controlling parent or simply a practical one, Frugal Father is left to wonder: Was cutting the allowance the only way to draw a boundary, or did he shut down a chance to understand his son’s heart?
If your teenager decided to spend big to support a friend’s child, would you pull back the funding or find a way to meet them halfway?
