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Man Faces Fiancée’s Demand To Stop Cooking For Friend

by Katy Nguyen
September 23, 2025
in Social Issues

OP, a cooking enthusiast, loves preparing special meals for his truck driver friend Jace to offer comfort after long trips. His fiancée, a picky eater, objects to the effort he puts into these meals, calling it excessive and making derogatory remarks.

OP stands by his hobby, but is he wrong for continuing? Let’s explore the details and see what the online community thinks.

This story navigates the balance between friendship and romance. Is OP in the wrong?

Man Faces Fiancée’s Demand To Stop Cooking For Friend

'AITAH? My fiancée is demanding I stop making home-cooked meals for a friend?'

I (27M) am very passionate about cooking. I’m not a professional chef by any means, but it’s one of my favorite hobbies.

I love the act of creating food, but sharing it is what’s really special to me, whether it’s something I’ve made or a nice meal at a restaurant.

My girlfriend (27F) is pretty picky. She won’t even touch a majority of the things I cook or split most meals at restaurants, and that’s fine.

It’s the way she’s been reacting to other people enjoying my food that bothers me.

A good friend of mine, Jace (34M), is a truck driver. I don’t get to see him as often as I would like, but when he comes home, I always...

It’s fun for me to plan. It’s also really fulfilling in a way? It makes me feel this sense of warmth, making something for him.

I know that being on the road so much can be tough, so when he’s here, I want him to feel grounded and at peace.

Basically, I’m giving this man all the comfort food. Jace is always so appreciative and makes jokes about coming home to his “wife.”

He should be back home in just a few days, and I mentioned to my fiancée that I had a whole menu planned.

She got upset and basically told me that she didn’t like how I went “above and beyond” for him.

I’ve held my ground and said it’s important to me, but her comments have started feeling a little less aimed at her own discomfort and more so just derogatory towards...

AITAH for wanting to keep cooking for him?

This story reveals a relationship tension rooted in differing priorities and communication gaps. OP’s cooking for Jace, while a kind gesture, may make his fiancée feel neglected, especially if she doesn’t receive similar effort.

Relationship psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson notes, “Insecurity in relationships often stems from feeling unprioritized, and open communication is key to resolution”.

OP is entitled to his passion and friendships, but he should assess whether he’s inadvertently sidelining his fiancée’s emotional needs. Her derogatory comments are inappropriate and need addressing through honest dialogue.

Both should discuss how to make each other feel valued, and Jace should avoid “wife” jokes to prevent misunderstandings. This case highlights balancing friendships with romantic relationships and the need for clear communication to avoid resentment.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit mostly supports OP, affirming his right to cook for his friend but suggesting his fiancée’s reaction stems from insecurity. Here’s a roundup of reactions.

Many see jealousy or neglect behind her reaction.

Fit_Sir_3061 − It's probably not so much the food. It sounds like your girlfriend feels threatened by your relationship with the truck driver.

Vlophoto − She wants something from you she isn’t getting, valid or not. She has built resentment. This isn’t about food.

Objective-Ear3842 − This sounds less about the food and more about the effort and thought you put into this friendship, perhaps making her question if you’re similarly prioritizing her?

Is there something non-food related you put this much energy into doing for your gf? Planning dates, romantic evenings, things you know she likes?

I know you enjoy making food for others, but have you taken the time to learn how your gf feels most loved and appreciated? And then do/facilitate that for her?

Do you have the same level of energy for helping your gf “feel grounded and at peace” when she’s had a rough day at work or in general?

Caje_ − You’re not going to build him an art room, are you?

Some urge OP to consider his fiancée’s needs.

Exotic_Confusion151 − Question: How do you make your gf feel that “warmth” you want Jace to feel?

You mentioned in another comment that her coming home every day from a hard day at work isn’t the same as Jace being on the road for endless days, so...

I think it’s great that you treat your friends this way (presuming that they all get special treatment when needed), but if you don’t have the same thrill or excitement...

I’m leaning towards NTA, but I really think you need to have a sit down with your girl and make sure she’s feeling loved, too.

Correct_Squash6668 − NTA, but let me ask you something... You say she's picky and that she hardly eats what you make, but do you cook with her in mind?

Like if it's the 2 of you, do you think about meals that stay away from both your dislikes, or just what sounds good to you that day?

It sounds like she's jealous... but I don't think it's because of the relationship with ur friend, more so that it sounds like you put a lot of effort into...

Have you done this for her, let alone weekly? If so, then I apologize for assuming the worst, as that is what I'm familiar with.

I will also apologize if she is a strictly chicken nuggets/ grilled cheese girl.

Some don't get out of that phase. My niece is one and drives me insane. I'm tired of the same 3 restaurant choices.

Keep cooking for your friend, but ask her what's wrong with it. If she's never joined you in the kitchen, maybe ask if she wants to help.

Sounds weird, but it's hard to deny the person you love something that makes them so happy... and then the appreciation from the person you made it for 🥰

Has she been part of this? I wish I had her side. I feel like this could be remedied with an honest and maybe guided conversation.

A few criticize her derogatory comments.

algernonrex − Genuine, non-judgemental question: How does it make you feel when he expresses his appreciation?

How does it make you feel when he jokes about "coming home to his wife"? Are there other times that you have felt that way, and what spurred them?

Friendships are important, and a big part of them is showing you care. But she may feel like he's getting something she isn't.

That said, if she's making derogatory comments towards you, it's not an appropriate way to handle the situation.

If it's possible to have an open conversation about why it's making her uncomfortable, I would advocate for that.

If it's not possible to have an open and honest conversation about an issue in your relationship, that is a problem in and of itself

atmasabr − NTA, it is fundamentally toxic for someone to try to disrupt a friendship. However, I do think you should let your friend know he can't call you his...

coccopuffs606 − She’s not upset about the food; she’s upset about the effort you’re putting into your friendship.

For whatever reason, she feels like that relationship is your priority and not the one you have with her.

It’s never just about the food. Or the art room. Or the Iranian yogurt.

OkIssue5589 − I need more information; are you buying all these ingredients for these meals? You said menu; that sounds pretty extensive.

Like ballpark park, how much are you spending on your "friend"? How much time, etc, goes into it?

I feel like you're glossing over these important details so that it sounds like your GF is just being petty and jealous, but if a significant portion of your time...

PrpleSparklyUnicrn13 − Jace is always so appreciative and makes jokes about coming home to his “wife.” This isn’t just about the food.

Whycantihavethatone − INFO: You say she doesn't like your food. Do you ever prepare meals of things that she does like? Maybe it's that you go to this effort for...

RugbyKats − Do what makes you happy, especially if it makes other people happy. NTA

KLG999 − She demeans something you are passionate about. You don’t try to force your love of cooking on her, so why does it bother her that someone else enjoys...

AntheaBrainhooke − INFO: What do you do “above and beyond” for your girlfriend to make her feel loved and appreciated?

The problem here is not the food. It’s the time and effort you are expending on Jace that she probably feels you are not spending on her.

OP isn’t wrong for wanting to cook for his friend Jace, but his fiancée’s reaction suggests deeper insecurities that need addressing. Reddit supports his passion but urges open communication to ensure his fiancée feels valued.

How can OP balance his friendship and relationship? Have you navigated similar conflicts in relationships? Share your stories!

Katy Nguyen

Katy Nguyen

Hey there! I’m Katy Nguyễn, a writer at Dailyhighlight.com. I’m a woman in my 30s with a passion for storytelling and a degree in Journalism. My goal is to craft engaging, heartfelt articles that resonate with our readers, whether I’m diving into the latest lifestyle trends, exploring travel adventures, or sharing tips on personal growth. I’ve written about everything from cozy coffee shop vibes to navigating career changes with confidence. When I’m not typing away, you’ll likely find me sipping a matcha latte, strolling through local markets, or curled up with a good book under fairy lights. I love sunrises, yoga, and chasing moments of inspiration.

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