This Man’s Extreme Dislike of Cats Might Cost Him His “One in a Million” Girlfriend

When two people decide to move in together, they merge their lives, their finances, and sometimes, their pets. For one man, the prospect of cohabitation was perfect, except for one furry, four-legged detail: his girlfriend’s cat.

A self-proclaimed “dog person,” the man harbors a deep, almost irrational hatred for felines. He found the cat annoying, aloof, and constantly in his space.

When he suggested the cat move in with her parents, his “one in a million” girlfriend gave him a swift, cold ultimatum: “We’re a package deal,” or the relationship is over. Now he wonders if he should play hardball right back.

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This situation is a perfect storm of incompatible preferences, poor communication, and a massive failure to understand the pet-owner bond. The OP frames his girlfriend’s stance as “playing hardball” and “holding the relationship hostage,” but the community was quick to point out that he was the one who issued the first ultimatum.

The OP loves his dog and sees it as family. He must realize that his girlfriend feels the exact same way about her cat. Asking her to rehome her pet is not a negotiation; it’s a demand for her to sacrifice a family member for his comfort.

The fact that the OP has a dog makes his demand especially hypocritical. He is essentially saying that his type of pet is acceptable, but hers is not. This is a fundamental incompatibility that needs to be addressed before any lease is signed.

For many people, pets are not property; they are dependents and sources of unconditional love. The OP’s casual suggestion that the cat “can live with your parents” demonstrates a profound misunderstanding of this bond.

In fact, the bond between humans and pets is often so strong that pet loss is processed similarly to human loss. A 2023 survey by Forbes Advisor found that 84% of pet owners consider their pets to be family members. The girlfriend’s reaction, “We’re a package deal,” is the standard response of someone whose family is being threatened.

Furthermore, the OP’s rationalization of his dislike for cats is based on stereotypes (“doesn’t give two [craps] if you live or die”) rather than genuine behavioral issues. The cat kneading the OP is actually a sign of affection and comfort, not malicious scratching.

As relationship therapist Dr. Jenn Mann often advises, if a partner asks you to give up a beloved pet, they are signaling that they do not respect your emotional attachments or your judgment. The girlfriend’s ultimatum was not hardball; it was her defining a non-negotiable boundary. If the OP cannot accept her family unit as it is, they should not move forward.

Check out how the community responded:

The entire community was unanimous, ruling YTA and calling out the OP’s hypocrisy and selfishness.

Many users focused on the emotional bond and the fact that the OP was demanding a huge sacrifice for a petty reason.

Redditors advised the OP to either accept the cat or end the relationship, noting that his girlfriend deserves someone better.

The OP needs to realize that his girlfriend is not playing a game; she is defining her boundaries. If he cannot accept her, her cat, and her emotional attachments, he should step aside and let her find someone who will appreciate the whole “package deal.”

Do you think the OP has a right to demand a cat-free home, or is the girlfriend right to put her foot down?