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Woman Loses Fiancé After Brother Exposes A Teen Mistake, Now She’s Kicking Him Out

by Layla Bui
December 8, 2025
in Social Issues

Some mistakes from our teenage years never fully disappear, even when we grow out of them and build better lives. And when someone brings up those moments without warning, the consequences can be far more destructive than they realize. Especially when the person hearing it has a painful history of their own.

A woman who thought she was days away from building a life with her fiancé suddenly found everything falling apart during a simple party game. Her brother’s offhand reminder of a long-ago mistake triggered the end of her relationship and left her reeling.

Hurt, blindsided, and unable to look at him, she made a decision in the heat of grief that has now divided the household. Keep reading to see how one sentence turned a whole future upside down.

A woman’s engagement unravels after her brother exposes a mistake she made at seventeen

Woman Loses Fiancé After Brother Exposes A Teen Mistake, Now She’s Kicking Him Out
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'AITA for kicking out my brother, who our parents have previously disowned, because he told my (now ex) fiancé that I cheated 9 years ago?'

For reference, my brother Connor is 19, I am 26, and my (now ex) fiancé Hunter is 28.

Also for reference, already mentioned in the title, but my brother was kicked out

when he was 16 because our parents snooped through his phone and found out he was in gay.

Connor had a birthday last weekend, so he invited his friends over and they were all (18-22 year olds) drinking and playing games.

Hunter and I were about to head out to let them have the place to themselves, when Connor asked if we wanted to join them.

I initially refused (bit too old to be playing drinking games), but he insisted and Hunter thought it’d be fun to act like college students again.

We all got pretty drunk and Connor had the idea of playing Never Have I Ever.

A few rounds in, the statement “Never Have I Ever cheated before” came up.

Now’s a good time to mention that Hunter is staunchly against cheating. His ex-fiancé cheated on him and it emotionally wrecked him.

And unfortunately, as a lot of dumb, immature 17 year olds do, I cheated on my “boyfriend” of 5 months.

It was a stupid mistake, he found out, and (understandably) ended things.

This was almost a decade ago, I obviously learned my lesson, and look back at that time with shame (and obviously never cheated since).

Well my brother knows about this so when I didn’t drink, he went “hey sis, what the hell?

You know you cheated on (insert ex’s name). You have to drink to that!”

My boyfriend paused, looked at me, looked at him, and just walked out of the room.

I followed him and tried to talk to tell him that it was a stupid teenaged mistake, but he wasn’t haven’t any of it and ended things on the spot.

I’m numb. I’m heartbroken. He was my everything and more and I still don’t know how I’m going to move on.

Connor tried to apologize, but I feel nothing but sadness and emptiness. This morning I served him an eviction notice.

He begged me to stay and said he didn’t mean to ruin my relationship and he just didn’t think when he said those words.

I just can’t look at him right now. He ruined my life.

After I raised him and cared for him like he was my own. I feel so hurt. Am I being unreasonable?

Some wounds hurt most when they come from the people we love enough to protect. OP’s heartbreak isn’t just about the end of an engagement; it’s the emotional shock of being betrayed by the brother she supported when no one else would.

People can forgive themselves for past mistakes, but they rarely recover easily when someone weaponizes those mistakes years later. OP wasn’t just reliving a teenage error; she was watching her present collapse because of a comment spoken without thought in a moment meant to be fun. The grief comes from loss layered on top of loss.

This story highlights the complexity. Connor, still young and surrounded by peers, likely didn’t grasp the emotional stakes. Alcohol lowers inhibition, and younger siblings often misjudge what is “harmless honesty” versus what can devastate an adult life.

To him, it may have felt like banter; to OP, it was exposure. Meanwhile, her fiancé reacted through the lens of unresolved trauma; his history with infidelity meant the game triggered an old wound rather than rational assessment.

None of this makes the outcome any less painful, but it explains why the emotional collision unfolded so violently. OP stood in the center of two people reacting from unhealed places.

Psychological insight helps make sense of the intensity. According to the Cleveland Clinic, betrayal, especially unexpected betrayal, activates the brain’s threat response system, causing emotional shock, panic, and feelings of deep instability in relationships. They note that betrayal “undermines a person’s sense of safety and trust,” even when the event stems from long-past behavior.

In addition, Verywell Mind explains that betrayal trauma can occur when a trusted person violates emotional boundaries, and the pain is often magnified when the relationship is close, such as a family member exposing private information.

Seen through these expert lenses, OP’s responses become deeply understandable. Her fiancé experienced a betrayal trigger based on his past, while OP experienced betrayal from someone she housed, supported, and protected.

Serving Connor an eviction notice wasn’t a calculated punishment; it was a reflexive act of emotional self-protection after a profound breach of trust.

Moving forward, healing may require time, boundaries, and space. Forgiveness, if it comes, will only be possible after the immediate emotional shock settles.

OP isn’t unreasonable; she is grieving a life she built and a relationship she nurtured, both of which cracked open because someone she trusted spoke without understanding the weight of his words.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

A large portion of commenters believed all three parties shared responsibility

[Reddit User] − I’m going to have to say ESH. Why your brother is TA Bringing up your regretful teenaged mistakes is a huge no-no.

I don’t know why he would think exclaiming to everyone “hey everyone, my sister is a cheater” was a great move,

but I get that it was because he was drunk. Alcohol does make you do stupid things.

I can easily see how the lack of judgment caused by inebriation could lead to him thinking that was an acceptable thing to do.

Why your fiancé is TA Probably the most controversial of them but I think your ex-fiancé sucks the most.

I get being hurt in the past because of cheating (I know that pain all too well),

but he’s holding a mistake you made when you were a teenager against you.

Assuming you’re being honest, you never cheated on him, you’ve never given any indication that you did,

and the relationship was otherwise fulfilling, breaking off an engagement over something you did a decade ago is overkill.

Why you’re TA You’re misdirecting your anger.

I get being upset because your fiancé left you, but I think that’s more of a fiancé problem than a brother problem.

From your story, he wasn’t being malicious, and he’s obviously remorseful.

No great relationship should end that suddenly and without warning, especially considering it happened a decade ago.

I wouldn’t let this blimp ruin an otherwise good relationship with your brother. Forgive him.

wigglebuttbiscuits − ESH. You suck for kicking out your brother who has no other family for a dumb mistake during a drinking game.

Your boyfriend sucks for dumping you over something you did nine years ago.

Your brother sucks the least-he was being a jerk, but it's not like he outed you for cheating on your current partner.

He had no reason to think it would blow up your life like this.

alwaysbiggertitties − oof. ESH. The fiance should theoretically get over that insecurity, he is 28.

OP is trying really hard to justify sweeping her action under the rug. Stop.

Since you knew the fiance's stance on cheating, while you did not lie, you did not come clean from the get go.

The brother seems socially lacking by dropping the ball on an obvious reason OP cheated (on the game, lol).

Hope it works our for you OP, talk to both people... explain your stance.

AimMick − ESH. Unfortunately sometimes things we do in life catch up with us. Even stupid s__t we did as teens.

Your brother was a jerk for spewing s__t when he was drunk. But really the a__hole here is the ex fiancé.

You were 17. Teens make stupid decisions all the time.

For him to hold this against you and break things off from you is absolutely ridiculous.

I think you may have dodged a bullet. I think kicking him out is pretty harsh.

number1wifey − ESH, but I thought you had cheated on your fiancé, but no! Some high school brief relationship as a dumb teenager?

If this is all it takes for your fiancé to leave you, it was not a good relationship, and you’ve dodged a bullet.

He had the right to be pissed, but if this is all it takes for him to leave then you were already doomed.

Marriage is about thick and thin, good times and bad. Forgive your brother and move on.

LateralThinker13 − ESH. Connor didn't mean to hurt you. You know who did? Hunter.

He's the intolerant, unforgiving, uncompromising p__ck that you're trying to defend. He CHOSE to dump you on the spot. His mistake, that you're punishing your brother for. All your brother...

If Hunter wouldn't even hear you out, despite being your F'ing FIANCE, then you're better rid of him.

Oh, and you're TA for blaming Connor instead of a) owning your s__t (lying), and b) blaming Hunter.

Another set of commenters focused heavily on honesty

Lost_vob − YTA. Brother did you a HUGE favor. The cheating was a decade ago and wasn't on him.

The fact that he got mad over something that happened before his is a GIANT red flag.

Frankly, I think your ex is the biggest a__hole of the 3 of you, and you're lucky it ended now instead of later.

I know you're hurt, but you would have been hurt a lot worse if this relationship was allowed to continue.

280454 − YTA your brother clearly meant no harm and you shouldn’t have hidden it from your fiancé when you knew how he felt about cheating.

I feel like your fiancé may have understood if you told himself before.

You ruined your own relationship, it's not your brothers fault that you put him in that awkward situation and it's spiteful to kick him out over this

Rectorol − YTA, I'm sorry but from your description you know your fiance has trust issues and so you decided not to talk to him about your past?

Your brother isn't really an ass here the whole point of that game is to embarrass people.

Partaking in it willingness and consent to be embarrassed basically.

When you learned abour your ex's past did you not think it relevamt to bring up yours?

K__ling your relationship with your brother over this is vindictive and while your hurt emotionally

and sure have a reason to be upset and even angry, this sounds like you getting vengeance on your brother not sympathy.

Plazmuh − It's a difficult one but I think I'm shooting with YTA.

Ultimately you are the one who cheated and in my opinion if you are engaged and looking to get married,

then that other person has a right to know whether or not you have cheated before.

I imagine your fiance ended it because he found out during an immature drinking game

as opposed to you being honest and upfront with him way back when.

I would be devastated if I found that out about my fiance god knows how many years in to the relationship.

I know you're in a lot of pain right now but I would think long and hard

about severing relations with your brother over what was a dumb, drunk, off the cuff comment.

Did he know that your fiance was in the dark about that? Did he know how anti-cheat your ex-fiance is? If yes to both then maybe ESH.

ca_agent − YTA - I get the impression that you've lied to your ex-fiance about cheating in the past

and when this truth came out he was forced to wonder what else you have lied about.

If he made it known that he was not into cheaters and you pretended to never be a cheater so you could be with him,

then that's lying and probably the reason why he left you. For all those saying that the fiancé is TA

and shouldn't have left her for something she did all those years ago...

He didn't leave her just because she cheated, he also left her because of the deceit.

But most importantly, he can have any standards he wants and "once a cheater, always a cheater" is a phrase in common usage for a reason.

Lots of people believe is deeply. OP Says she never cheated since, she probably also told him she never cheated before...

Brother wasn't smart, Ex-fiance is not TA.

Some readers withheld judgment until more details were clear

RLRicki − INFO - Did your brother know that your (ex) fiancé would have such a dramatic reaction?

I am not going to go all the way to saying you’re an A - but I don’t think you should kick him out over this,

especially if he didn’t know how virulently opposed to you ever having cheated your fiancé would be. Your fiancé, though - that is a big reaction.

I’m not sure 100% willing to call him an A either, but... he needs to figure himself out.

rsreddit9 − INFO did you lie to your fiancé for years saying specifically you had never cheated? In that case you’re the big a__hole.

Otherwise your fiancé is a major a__hole and you’re still an a__hole but an a__hole who dodged a bullet nonetheless

Your brother is an a__hole for meddling no matter what, but I don’t think it was malicious so he’s only a little bit of an a__hole

This story highlights how one impulsive moment can expose years of unspoken fears, insecurities, and expectations.

Many readers agreed the brother made a painful mistake, but the fiancé’s abrupt exit revealed a fragility in the relationship that might have surfaced later in an even more damaging way. The loss stings, yet it may also be a turning point toward healthier boundaries and more durable relationships.

Do you think OP’s reaction to her brother was fair, or did heartbreak cloud her judgment? Share your thoughts!

Layla Bui

Layla Bui

Hi, I’m Layla Bui. I’m a lifestyle and culture writer for Daily Highlight. Living in Los Angeles gives me endless energy and stories to share. I believe words have the power to question the world around us. Through my writing, I explore themes of wellness, belonging, and social pressure, the quiet struggles that shape so many of our lives.

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