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A Man Forces Obese Seatmate to Pay Him After Encroachment on Plane

by Charles Butler
September 23, 2025
in Social Issues

Boarding a plane should feel like the start of an adventure, not a battle for space. One traveler thought he’d secured a comfortable aisle seat for a five-hour flight, only to discover his neighbor taking up far more room than expected.

The seat encroachment left him squeezed, arm against arm, shoulder pressed uncomfortably. After politely raising the issue, he proposed a deal: $150 in cash to tolerate the situation.

The passenger agreed, relieved to stay onboard, while the couple behind them muttered “jerk.” The situation sparked an online debate, was this clever problem-solving or public shaming?

A Man Forces Obese Seatmate to Pay Him After Encroachment on Plane

Check out the drama that’s got Reddit buzzing!

'AITA for making an obese man pay me cash to take up part of my seat on a long flight?'

So this month I was flying across the country on a long 5 hour flight, which I had booked and seats selected for. I specifically chose an aisle seat in...

Well, a very obese man boards and I can tell instantly he is going to have a tough time fitting in any of the seats. I assume maybe he bought...

I’m mentally crossing my fingers he’s not next to me, but sure enough he ends up pointing to the window seat next to me to let him in.

I get up and let him in politely, wanting to at least give him a chance. Well, he sits down and is easily seeping into about 1/3 of my seat.

I sit down and am pressed up against him, making me uncomfortable. After a minute, I decided to be upfront and tell him:

“Sir, I’m sorry but this situation is not working for me, you’re taking up quite a bit of my seat”.

He wasn’t rude, but sort of gave me a shrug as if there’s not nothing he can do, although he did sort of tighten his arms in to try and...

He still was overhanging over the armrest about 1/4th into my seat even when squeezing his arms in. I’m talking about fully hanging over the armrest into my seat.

I end up stopping a flight attendant and ask her what can be done about the situation. She instantly tells him that he is likely going to need to purchase...

She goes to the front and comes back saying that there aren’t any open seats on this flight, so there wasn’t a way to move people so he could have...

The guy seemed embarrassed and didn’t want to get up. He mentioned how he can’t wait for a later flight. I felt bad for him but I was also thinking...

The flight attendant tells him that unless someone on the flight agrees to let him take up part of their seat, he’ll need to book another flight.

The guy seems really flustered by this ultimatum, and here’s where I made my offer. I told the guy, “Look, I’ll put up with this if you give me $150

that’s half the cost of this flight and that would compensate me enough for the circumstances”. He instantly agrees, pulls out cash and pays me. He even told me he...

Well the people sitting behind me (who keep in mind didn’t volunteer to sit by him) were making under their breath comments about me being an a**hole for doing that....

From my perspective, I gave the guy a valid option to stay on the flight and I was compensated for literally having only 75% of my seat max

(let alone the feeling of a person’s body pressed against you involuntarily). A win-win. He wasn’t angry at all, if anything he seemed quite relieved we could work it out...

After the flight, the couple behind me glared at me but I ignored them. This leads me to beg the question, AITA?

The Mid-Air Compromise

Flights can be tight, but this was extreme. The Redditor expected a standard seat but found himself pressed against a passenger whose size extended well into his space.

He initially attempted diplomacy, asking for assistance from the flight attendant. With the flight fully booked and no extra seats available, the options were limited.

To resolve it, he offered $150 to the passenger, essentially renting peace of mind for the flight. The man agreed, easing tension for both, yet whispers from behind branded the Redditor as opportunistic. Was this a practical compromise or an exploitative move targeting someone’s body?

Expert Insight: Comfort Versus Compassion

Airlines often leave passengers and staff in uncomfortable situations when size becomes a factor.

A 2023 FAA report revealed that 40% of U.S. flights lack clear guidelines for accommodating larger passengers, leaving everyone to improvise solutions.

Paying for a seat comes with an expectation of usable space, and the Redditor’s discomfort was valid.

Customer experience expert Shep Hyken notes, “Empathy in tough situations builds trust, while transactional fixes can feel cold.”

The deal worked in the sense that both parties agreed, but its public nature and the cash demand likely embarrassed the passenger.

Alternative approaches, such as quietly negotiating a future voucher or requesting airline intervention, might have achieved the same goal without the perceived humiliation.

Where Responsibility Lies

Both perspectives have merit. The Redditor had a right to his seat and its intended space. The $150 fee provided compensation for inconvenience, keeping the flight on schedule.

On the other hand, highlighting the passenger’s size in front of other travelers was harsh. The real gap lies with airlines, which often fail to enforce clear two-seat policies or proactive seating solutions for larger passengers.

This story underscores the difficulty of balancing personal comfort with human dignity. Charging a fee might feel fair from a transactional standpoint but can come across as cruel when it publicly targets someone’s physical appearance.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Some argue the $150 deal was a clever, consensual solution that avoided mid-air conflict. 

clocksailor − YTA, I think. The problem here was that this large dude stuck you with being uncomfortable on your flight, right?

Well, the $150 didn't make you any less squished in your seat, so it really feels like you just blackmailed this guy for being fat. (the real a**hole in this...

edit: this sub is for debating whether or not OP was a d**k, not whether or not he was within his rights to seize an opportunity to get $150 out...

700 copies of the same comments telling me what a cuck I am aren’t going to change my mind.

herefromthere − NAH You compromised. He compromised. It was an awkward situation of nobody's making.

I think half the cost of the flight was maybe a bit steep though, if he was only in a third of your seat. Having said that, five hours is...

mathxjunkii − YTA. Maybe in a technical look at the economics of the situation it was “fair”: you paid for a seat, someone was using part of that seat, you...

So you asked to be compensated for the money you felt you lost in comfort, the person taking up that space obliged. Sure. I guess.

And if we were talking about someone denting your bumper in a parking lot, this solution would have been okay. But we aren’t talking about your car, or a parking...

or paying for material damage. We’re talking about the way you handled a situation about a person’s body, on a plane.

While everything you did may have been “fair” economically, that fact doesn’t also preserve your character. You acted like an a**hole.

You humiliated a person, a human being, by calling attention to his weight in a situation he couldn’t do anything about. First you told him it wasn’t going to work...

Of course he shrugged like there was nothing he could do about it! There wasn’t anything he could do about it! ), then you called over a flight attendant

and you had a one on one conversation with the flight attendant about this mans weight and how it was a problem for you- while he was sitting right there.

And of course he graciously gave you $150. He was relieved that some money was going to shut you up and you weren’t going to continue to humiliate him for...

or worse, get him kicked off this flight. He said he had to be on this flight. Clearly where ever he was going, he was on a very tight schedule.

You didn’t even stop to consider his humanity. You didn’t consider that he might have a sick family member at his destination that he needed to get to, or a...

You saw this as a material situation, with negative economical impacts, and you can’t do that when it’s physical human beings involved-

not without being an a**hole at least. Again. This would have been fine if you were asking for money to cover damages to a material object that another person’s mistakes...

While this situation may have economically been “fair”, it doesn’t mean you were in the right. You are definitely an a**hole. Absolutely.

There was no way for this situation to be fair, without you being an a**hole. In order for you to be the nice guy here, you would have had to...

You’re not a nice person in this situation. And that is exactly what you came here for- you came to ask if you’re an a**hole. The answer is yes, you’re...

You’re an a**hole who rectified a situation for economic fairness, you’re an a**hole who is comfortable with how he handled the situation.

You’re an a**hole who would probably do this again if the situation ever presented itself. And that’s fine, you’re entitled to do whatever you want,

but you asked if you were an a**hole, so we’re answering: yes you’re an a**hole. Also, please keep in mind: Economic fairness wasn’t required I this situation.

You were still on the plane, you were still getting to your destination, and that’s all you really needed from this plane ticket.

Flying isn’t a high class experience anymore. Flying is the means to an end. You get on your flight, you’re probably uncomfortable no matter what, the food isn’t good, your...

Then you get off the flight and get to your hotel, or your home, or your airbnb or where ever your destination is- and you begin your trip.

And that’s what you’re really there for, so who the f**k cares about the flight? The flight isn’t the memorable part of the trip. Calm down.

Others say publicly charging a passenger for their size was cruel and shaming, reflecting a lack of empathy. 

AcerbicAngryEel − NTA- he should have bought two seats, this is his fault, in fact he got off well with it. He agreed and you agreed. I am sure if...

[Reddit User] − YTA. This is ridiculous. You made a scene and embarrassed the man and then made him pay you for a fraction of your seat. You are the...

Waffle_King_w_Syrup − YTA. You didn’t settle this privately, you humiliated the guy by involving the flight attendant and then demanding $150 to allow him to stay on this flight.

I understand you were unlucky in having to deal with an uncomfortable seating arrangement and he was technically breaking a rule but was it really worth the $150 to do...

Demanding the money just makes you look like an opportunist.

Another group points to the airline’s responsibility, suggesting clearer seating rules could prevent these uncomfortable standoffs in the first place.

[Reddit User] − ESH. He should have prepared and bought two seats for him; you shouldn't have humiliated him by making him pay for "part of your seat" when the...

[Reddit User] − YTA. s**t, you didn’t have to embarrass the poor guy and make him PAY YOU? ? do you honestly think you’re NTA?

that’s like having someone pay you because their baby won’t stop screaming next to you. do you just ask people to pay you when they make you uncomfortable?

edit: I’ve deleted a few of my responses in this thread because I went off topic and they aren’t constructive :)

[Reddit User] − I wanna say you are 90% NTA, I applaud you for coming up with a solution that you were both happy with.

I don’t know if I would have had the guts to ask him to pay something and think it was definitely bold of you, maybe slightly rude but it did...

And really, the guy should have thought ahead, I’m sure he’s been on a plane before and disrupted another persons flight.

Edit: from the way you have been responding to others and your general attitude, I would now say 60% NTA. Understand why you did it, but you are coming across...

tackymanners − This is such a good one!

It’s so hard for me to decide where to draw the line because I’ve been on flights where a stranger has fallen asleep on me, or I’ve fallen asleep on...

or they smelled really bad, or tried to hit on me for the entire flight, or got really drunk and obnoxious, or a baby screamed the whole time,

or a man spread his legs so wide that I had to turn my whole body and cross my legs to prevent touching him.

I didn’t “pay” to have those experiences either and I just kinda chalk it up to what you have to deal with when I travel and because I’m too poor...

On the other hand, if I were that obese I would 100% do what I needed to do to prevent this situation from happening, aka buy two seats.

I don’t like that he basically uses people’s good nature in not complaining or feeling embarrassed or too kind to embarrass him by speaking up.

I think ESH but in different ways. He’s daring you to speak up and be the a**hole, and you took his dare. Would I do it? Hell no! You weren’t...

A Flight Resolved but Emotions Squeezed

The $150 charge kept the flight moving and gave the Redditor some relief from a cramped situation. But the solution raised ethical questions, was it fair compensation for lost space or public embarrassment at someone else’s expense?

Situations like this highlight the need for clear airline policies and considerate problem-solving. Would you negotiate cash for comfort, quietly request intervention, or let the airline handle it? How should travelers balance their right to space with empathy for fellow passengers?

 

Charles Butler

Charles Butler

Hey there, fellow spotlight seekers! As the PIC of our social issues beat—and a guy who's dived headfirst into journalism and media studies—I'm obsessed with unpacking how we chase thrills, swap stories, and tangle with the big, messy debates of inequality, justice, and resilience, whether on screens or over drinks in a dive bar. Life's an endless, twisty reel, so I love spotlighting its rawest edges in words. Growing up on early internet forums and endless news scrolls, I'm forever blending my inner fact-hoarder with the restless wanderer itching to uncover every hidden corner of the world.

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