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College Junior Gets An Abortion, Puts An End To Hardship With A View To A Better Future, Despite Parents’ Religious Belief

by Jeffrey Stone
December 2, 2025
in Social Issues

A 21-year-old college junior, juggling exams and a smoothie shop job, faced a life-altering shock with a positive pregnancy test. Her choice to stand firm sparked a storm of judgment from her boyfriend and parents, rivaling a soap opera’s intensity.

Overwhelmed yet resolute, her raw resolve on AITA split Reddit, pitting personal dreams against others’ demands. This saga of betrayal and bravery burns with emotion, as her fight to define her future fuels a fiery online debate.

Without parents’ help, college junior finds herself in debt, low-paid job, pregnancy and boyfriend’s abuse, decides to go for an abortion.

College Junior Gets An Abortion, Puts An End To Hardship With A View To A Better Future, Despite Parents' Religious Belief
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'AITAH for wanting an abortion and going against my boyfriend and parent's "wishes"?'

21f, found out I was pregnant on Monday and it really came as a shock because I've been on birth control pills since I turned 18.

I just finished my junior year of college and I'm set to graduate next spring so having a baby is not something I planned on at all.

My parents are not the type to help me. I've had to hide the fact I'm on birth control from my mom because she sees it as "sinful".

I live paycheck to paycheck and I'm already in debt for having student loans

(my parents would never give me their tax information for FAFSA so I had to take out both federal and private loans

to pay for school because my parents gave me grief for wanting to go to a 2 year community college and not a 4 year college right out of high...

I live with two roommates now and just landed a part time job at a smoothie place

and when the fall/spring semesters are in session, I'm a work study. I can't work more than 29 hours a week at my job so things have just been tight.

My boyfriend is 26m and one of my roommates introduced us. We've only been "together" since February.

He's met my parents and they really liked him. I missed my period for May and haven't had one for June yet and ended up taking a pregnancy test Monday...

My head has been spinning and I decided to tell my boyfriend last night about this and my decision.

His response was "I can't believe you didn't tell me right away" and he seemed upset that I didn't tell him exactly when I got the positive pregnancy test.

I was telling him I needed time to process it and he got kind of mad and said "You kept a secret from me" and tried to end our conversation.

I told him I wasn't done talking and we really needed to discuss this and I told him that I am NOT ready to be a mom.

I have a degree to finish and I want to eventually get my master's and I make $11.72 an hour at tropical smoothie cafe right now.

I said I can't support a baby and his response was "You don't think I can't take care of you both?"

which just made me feel like he wasn't listening to me at all and only thinking about what HE wanted.

I said I didn't want to stay pregnant and was looking at traveling out of state to get an abortion and he got ANGRY.

He said we "made a life and we have a responsibility to take care of it" and tried to tell me I couldn't get an abortion or we were over.

I'm like what the hell? We've only been dating 4 months, I've never met his family

and he's only met my parents once and while they liked him, we aren't married.

My mom ended up telling me she was upset that I was dating at all reminded me that having s__ before marriage was a sin.

I said no again, that being a mom isn't something I can do right now and he got SO ANGRY

and started yelling at me to the point where my roommate had to come in and make him leave.

He called me a murderer, a stupid b__ch, said he was going to "make me regret this decision"

and ended up texting not only BOTH of my roommates BUT MY PARENTS TOO about everything.

When I woke up this morning I had a bunch of texts from my parents, my dad saying I'm a disgrace and he and my mom won't support me anymore

(the only "bills" of mine they pay are my car insurance and my cell phone bill).

Now my roommate who introduced us is mad at me for being a "drama queen" when I didn't want ANYBODY to know.

I thought he would support me and not lose his cool and threaten me. My boyfriend texted me that I was "k__ling an innocent life"

and a bunch of other things I don't agree with. I feel trapped. Every part of me knows I’m not ready to bring a child into the world,

I can barely pay rent and afford groceries some months without going to my campus food bank,

I’m trying to finish school, and I know having a baby will ruin my future.

I live in a very red state that has banned abortion pretty much. Neither of my roommates are willing or wanting to help

because they don't want to get "in the middle" of my situation, and I know now my parents will be ZERO help

or give me any support because of their conservative/christian beliefs. Now I have to get the appointments made

(I've done some research and know what state I'll have to travel to and what clinic I'll be going to if they have availability),

travel out of state, take time off work and probably take out a payday loan or something to pay for it all so I don't ruin my life before my...

My mom has called me "shameful" and she texted that she couldn't "believe this is the path I'd choose"

and how hurt she is by my decision so it honestly feels like everyone around me is wanting me to keep this pregnancy

but I know deep down I really really can't.

AITAH for wanting to get an abortion despite my boyfriend and parents being so against it/wanting me to keep the pregnancy?

Edit: If everyone who's commented or private messaged me nasty s__t like I'm a baby k__ler or a whore or some other gross message in my inbox

(or weirdly asked me for nudes, you guys are gross) sent me $1, I'd have enough to either have the abortion in full or have some savings put away to...

The pro-life keyboard warriors are coming out and I even have some people in my inbox offering to adopt the clump of cells they think is a baby.

I do not want to have a child, not at 21, not now. I want to finish my degree and get a job that pays more than fast food.

I know not everyone will agree with me but it's what's best for ME. I've made my initial appointment at a clinic

and I will be calling organizations to get the funding for the abortion, traveling out of state, gas, hotel etc.

I plan on getting the abortion (even with the amount of hate I'm getting) because I know if I don't, I'm setting myself up for failure later on.

Thank you to those who have offered help and kind words despite the jerks in my inbox.

I have reached out to two organizations to help with funding and I'm waiting to hear back after getting the total cost of the abortion itself from the clinic.

I will update when I can but right now I'm just going to work on getting the funds together and moving on from this nightmare.

Edit 2: I heard back from one of the funding organizations and they're willing to cover half of the cost of the procedure.

I started crying on the phone because that's a huge relief taken care of. I felt like I was going to puke from nerves. I'm so relieved right now.

Edit 3: Some people have commented and messaged me about setting up a GoFundMe to get the remainder of the funds.

I appreciate that y'all but I'm too worried about my now ex finding out about it.

Hoping to hear back from the second organization to hopefully get the remaining funds together.

I'm trying not to be anxious and worried over it but I am so ready to be done and not have to deal with this hanging over my head anymore.

This Redditor, a 21-year-old college student, found herself pregnant and facing a chorus of voices: her boyfriend’s anger, her parents’ disapproval, and even her roommates’ sideline drama demanding she keep a baby she’s not ready for.

Financially stretched, with student loans piling up and a $11.72-an-hour job, she’s clear: motherhood now would derail her dreams of finishing her degree and building a stable future.

Her boyfriend of just four months flipped from charming to controlling, yelling and texting her parents and roommates to shame her choice.

His reaction, by calling her a “murderer” and threatening regret, raises red flags about coercion, not care.

Meanwhile, her conservative parents, who already begrudge her college path, cut her off emotionally, labeling her decision “shameful.”

This situation mirrors broader societal tensions. According to a 2023 Guttmacher Institute report, 1 in 4 women in the U.S. will seek an abortion by age 45, often citing financial instability or unpreparedness.

For young women like this Redditor, restrictive state laws add logistical nightmares: travel, costs, and secrecy.

Her resolve to travel out of state, despite hate-filled messages, shows grit, but it’s a heavy load to carry alone.

Dr. Jen Gunter, an OB-GYN and author, notes on New York Times, “Reproductive choice is about trusting women to know what’s best for their lives”.

This applies directly: the Redditor’s clarity about her limits deserves respect, not rage. Her boyfriend’s outburst and her parents’ judgment sidestep her reality, prioritizing ideology over empathy.

What’s the path forward? She’s already researching clinics and funding, showing fierce determination. Connecting with support networks, like the National Network of Abortion Funds, could ease her burden. For anyone in her shoes, prioritizing safety is key, both physically and emotionally.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Some believe the individual’s autonomy over their body and life justifies their decision.

[Reddit User] − Absolutely, 100%, without a shred of doubt, NTA.

You are not a villain for refusing to set your entire life on fire because other people want to play out their fantasies of parenthood, morality, or control over your...

You are 21. You are scraping by to survive, juggling work, loans, school, and now a literal betrayal from almost every supposed “support system” in your life.

And for what? So your boyfriend of four months, who turned abusive the second he didn’t get his way, can feel like a hero?

So your parents can pat themselves on the back while offering you zero real help?

You are not selfish. You are sane. You are brave. And the fact that you’re doing the math, the research, and the heavy lifting alone

while being emotionally pummeled from all sides shows more strength and responsibility than anyone around you is showing.

Your body, your future, your decision. Period. Go protect your life. And don't look back.

MistressJacklynHyde − NTA. It's YOUR body, your choice. You get to decide.

No one else has to carry the baby for 9 months and alter their entire life. You do. Please do what is best for YOU and you only.

Plus your bf is showing a bunch of red flags and being controlling. I wouldn't want to have a kid with him regardless.

Not to mention you have only been together since February.

Karlinel-my-beloved − Idk girl, maybe it’s a cultural thing being an European,

but if you are pregnant and don’t want to… you get an abortion because it’s your body and your life.

Ok_Composer_9458 − NTA you shouldn't have to ruin your entire life just because of the views of people around you.

You boyfriend (hopefully ex) thinks he can handle it he can't he's a weak a** b*t*h.

Having to handle school, work and a child is entirely too much hats of to people who do it but it is the most stupid decision someone could make.

Its basically making your life harder on purpose for absolutely no reason. Here's a few resources I found that could help.

[Need an A__rtion? - National Network of A__rtion Funds](https://abortionfunds. org/need-an-a__rtion/)

[The Brigid Alliance - National Network of A__rtion Funds](https://abortionfunds. org/fund/the-brigid-alliance/)

Others highlight the boyfriend’s controlling behavior and suggest ending the relationship.

FairyFartDaydreams − NTA and he might have sabotaged your BC to trap you.

Get the abortion and drop the AH. Also make sure all your partners use condoms too. They are also responsible for protection.

[Reddit User] − Your body your choice. This guy is bad news, more red flags than May Day in Moscow.

Please dump him (safely as you can) and do what’s right for you. Call domestic violence hotline for help.

Ok-Reply9552 − Break up with him, block everyone who’s against you, get the abortion,

start working towards getting a studio apartment of your own and move on with your life.

You’re 21, officially an adult. No one has a say in your choices. And you shouldn’t be putting up with ppl who think otherwise.

Some warn of potential danger and suggest secrecy or relocation for safety.

[Reddit User] − NTA but you are in danger girl. Don't tell them anything else.

Tell them the whole thing was a prank or a test. You may even want to talk to a lawyer, I think they are going to twist on you.

Embarrassed-Tune-981 − If you can, you should move and change your number because your boyfriend sounds dangerous.

You don't want a child tying you to someone like him, you're definitely NTA for that. Be careful about who you trust from this point on.

This Redditor’s standing at a crossroads, with her boyfriend’s threats and her parents’ scorn trying to drown out her voice.

Yet, she’s charting her own path, chasing a future where she’s not just surviving but thriving.

Was her decision to prioritize her dreams over others’ demands bold or divisive?

How would you balance personal goals against family pressure in a situation this intense? Drop your thoughts and let’s keep the conversation going!

Jeffrey Stone

Jeffrey Stone

Jeffrey Stone is a valuable freelance writer at DAILY HIGHLIGHT. As a senior entertainment and news writer, Jeffrey brings a wealth of expertise in the field, specifically focusing on the entertainment industry.

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