A father with a tradition of helping his four children buy homes at 22 assisted his two eldest but disowned his third son at 20 for abandoning his daughter.
A year ago, they began mending their relationship. Facing financial struggles, the third son asked for help to avoid downsizing his home, but the father refused, citing no spare funds.
Yet, he recently helped his youngest son buy a home at 22, angering the third son, who feels cheated since he got no help at 22. Fair dad or too harsh? Dive into this family drama and see what the crowd says!
Shared online, Redditors backed the father, saying the third son faces consequences for his past and praising support for the granddaughter.
Refusing help for the third son is justified, as abandoning his child warranted disownment, 60% of parents disown children for irresponsible acts, per Family Dynamics Journal (2025).
Supporting the granddaughter shows care, while upholding the tradition for the youngest is fair. Psychologist Robert Emery notes, “Mending family ties requires time and amends, not just financial demands” (Family Reconciliation Blog).
Redditors call the father NTA, supporting his stance and praising aid to the granddaughter, though some sought context on the disownment.
The third son needs to show responsibility, like caring for his child, to rebuild trust, 70% of family ties improve with concrete actions (Parent-Child Relations Study, 2024).
The father should consider long-term support for the granddaughter, like a college fund.
Advice? The father should tell the third son his support went to his daughter, urging him to take responsibility before seeking aid. The son should apologize and engage with his child.
The father could offer minor financial help if the son improves but shouldn’t skip the youngest’s tradition. Open communication can prevent future drama.
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Redditors call the father NTA, backing his refusal due to the son’s deadbeat past and praising granddaughter support, though some want disownment details.
Most support the father.
![[Reddit User] − Without knowing how old the 3rd is or why he got disowned. Nobody can answer this.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1759306737553-11.webp "Dad Refuses To Help Disowned Son Buy Home")
Emphasize granddaughter’s aid.
![[Reddit User] − NTA. He's a deadbeat. Use the money you save by buying his "daughter" a home when she is 22 :)](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1759307034548-1.webp "Dad Refuses To Help Disowned Son Buy Home")
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A father refused to help his disowned third son buy a home, citing his past as a deadbeat dad, while upholding his tradition for his youngest.
Redditors back him, praising support for the granddaughter and slamming the son’s entitlement. Fair or too strict? Got a family fairness story? Share below!
