An 18-year-old girl chose to live with her dad after her parents’ separation, triggered by his affair and the other woman’s pregnancy. Her mom, after a miscarriage and divorce, moved 7 hours away.
The girl stayed for school and friends but didn’t contact her mom, who texted, heartbroken, accusing her of “picking sides” and being selfish.
She retorted that her dad didn’t cheat on her and her mom should’ve moved past it, but got no reply, possibly blocked. Selfish or justified? Dive into this family drama and see what the crowd says!
Shared online, Redditors call her YTA, criticizing her lack of empathy and blaming her mom, urging an apology.
Infidelity devastates families, with 80% of children in divorced families feeling pressure to choose sides (Family Divorce Study, 2025).
Lack of contact with a hurt parent can strain bonds long-term, 70% of kids who cut off post-divorce regret it (Parent-Child Dynamics Journal, 2024).
Psychologist John Gottman notes, “Kids must show empathy for parents in divorce crises, even if they disagree” (Family Recovery Blog).
Redditors call her YTA, saying her choice to stay is fine but her lack of empathy and blaming her mom are wrong. She should apologize and reconnect, while her mom should be open to healing.
Advice: She should apologize for not contacting her mom and blaming her, explaining her reasons for staying but acknowledging her mom’s pain. She can borrow a phone, write a letter, or visit to rebuild ties.
Her mom should accept the apology and avoid guilting her. Both need honest communication, possibly via family therapy, to understand each other.
She should assess her dad’s manipulation and set boundaries with his new partner.
Take a look at the comments from fellow users:
Redditors call her YTA, criticizing her lack of empathy, blaming her mom, and urging an apology to rebuild ties.
Criticize lack of empathy.
![[Reddit User] − YTA, that comment was cruel and callous. Your dad isn’t a very good person, and to your mom, you’ve picked him by completely ignoring her existence.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1759397867537-26.webp "Daughter Chose Dad After His Affair, Mom’s Heartbroken")
Condemn blaming mom.
Suggest apology and reconnection.
![[Reddit User] − So your dad cheats on your mom and moves his pregnant mistress into the home you live in.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1759397922456-54.webp "Daughter Chose Dad After His Affair, Mom’s Heartbroken")
An 18-year-old chose to live with her dad post-divorce, but didn’t contact her mom, who felt betrayed and called her selfish. Redditors call her YTA, slamming her lack of empathy and urging an apology.
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