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IT Worker Goes Silent in Meetings After Boss’s Write-Up Threat

by Katy Nguyen
September 24, 2025
in Social Issues

OP, an IT team member, was threatened with a write-up by their boss for providing information and clarifying responsibilities in vendor calls.

After the warning, OP went silent in meetings, only speaking when addressed, causing project delays as the boss relied on them for information.

This could lead to major fallout, but OP left for a better job. Was OP wrong for this silent protest? Let’s dive into the details and see what the online community thinks.

This story is a subtle rebellion against poor management. Did OP go too far?

IT Worker Goes Silent in Meetings After Boss’s Write-Up Threat

'My Boss threatened to write me up?'

I have an older boss who leads our IT group. Recently, she has threatened to write me up due to speaking up in conference calls with our vendor(s).

Speaking up consists of the vendor asking us to provide info, which I know we have readily available, and stating that I can provide.

Another example was clearly defining vendor responsibilities vs our company's responsibilities.

After one of these times, she called me and said that if one of these examples occurs again, she will write me up.

We discussed how even though I was taking the correct action or providing the correct information, it is the principle of my doing it, which she said is disrespecting her...

I responded by acknowledging this fact and how I have failed her as a follower. Since then, I have remained ghost quiet in meetings and only speak when spoken to.

This has resulted in the vendor having to repeatedly ask for information across multiple days before my boss comes to me for help, which has delayed projects and pushed out...

No fallout as of yet, but if things continue to run like this, s**t is gonna hit the fan, to which I will post a pt. 2 of this story.

EDIT Pt 2: I left the company for a higher-paying and more senior position.

This story highlights a toxic workplace where poor management stifles employee contributions, hindering efficiency.

The boss’s threat reflects insecurity and weak leadership, as noted by management expert Ken Blanchard: “Effective leaders encourage employee input, not suppress it for personal gain” (The One Minute Manager).

OP’s malicious compliance cleverly exposed the boss’s incompetence but risked escalation if they had stayed. Leaving for a better role was wise, though OP could consider reporting the boss’s behavior to HR to protect others.

This case underscores the need for respectful, effective management in workplaces.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit supports OP, calling the boss’s behavior unreasonable and urging documentation to protect against blame. Many share similar experiences with poor managers and encourage leaving. Here’s a roundup of reactions.

Many advise documenting interactions.

1000livesofmagic − You should get her to confirm via e-mail that she doesn't want you to speak up during conference calls so that she can't sling when it does hit...

coldfusion718 − Every interaction you have with her from now on needs a paper trail. If you don’t have it, I’m writing to back you up; you’re going to get...

If she comes to talk to you about stuff, send her an email to summarize what was said and make sure she responds/confirms. You might want to invest in a...

It’s also time for you to get some new cents (even better if you get them paid for by the company), update your resume, and put out feelers/talk to recruiters.

Some share similar experiences.

yamaha2000us − I had a manager write me up for not doing his job. HR and I had a laugh about it when we left his office.

felesroo − I had a super, it's like this, where me trying to get around her micromanaging, critical ass was me disrespecting her.

I quit. I don't need that s**t in my life. Her personal issues and insecurities made my job impossible to do well. Someone else can deal with her.

oldirrrrtykimchi − Probably want to talk to HR.

SumoNinja17 − Telephones these days are full-duplex. You can listen AND talk.

If she requires you to be on a conference call, that would indicate to me that you're an active participant and permitted to answer and ask questions, and comment on...

If she is not willing to let you talk, tell her you'll skip the call and do your productive work.

She should provide you with a transcript of the call to read in the bathroom. That way, you can savor the info while paying homage to her s**tty management style.

UnFocusMyChi − I would like the rest of the story, whenever it comes to a head.

Eric-B- − Always have unreasonable/dubious requests confirmed via email. Otherwise, when the s**t hits the fan, it'll also flow downhill.

Grimsterr − You need this in writing, else you're just gonna end up being written up no matter what you do.

A few urge action or leaving.

sailorjoenavy − Where do you live? I feel like it must be another planet. As I understand it, most companies only care about making more of the monies.

If your boss is that grossly incompetent, you should document it and go over her head. This is literally costing the company money.

JustMe_Maybe − Plan your exit strategy. This will never get better. I’ve had a manager like that, and it sucked the life out of me.

Smile_Fairy − Definitely want to know if there is fallout.

gHHqdm5a4UySnUFM − I’ve been in a similar situation. Started looking for a job, and (to make life bearable in the interim) I just started giving my micromanaging boss everything he...

I didn’t plan this, but I became his right-hand man, and it was so satisfying to tell him I’d accepted another offer and leave him high and dry.

__Geralt − Is there the possibility that really wasn't your call to make? Sometimes exposing information to someone really alters the economic relations.

As an example, a customer once asked us to provide an analysis for something: he wanted to know if the thing was good or bad.

A colleague let slip that it did not have effects (because he already did the analysis). Well, the customer didn't want the analysis anymore

[Reddit User] − Pls post updates.

OP wasn’t wrong for going silent after their boss’s threat, exposing her incompetence through malicious compliance. Reddit backs OP, advising documentation and an exit, which OP achieved.

How do you handle poor management at work? Have you faced a similar situation? Share your stories!

Katy Nguyen

Katy Nguyen

Hey there! I’m Katy Nguyễn, a writer at Dailyhighlight.com. I’m a woman in my 30s with a passion for storytelling and a degree in Journalism. My goal is to craft engaging, heartfelt articles that resonate with our readers, whether I’m diving into the latest lifestyle trends, exploring travel adventures, or sharing tips on personal growth. I’ve written about everything from cozy coffee shop vibes to navigating career changes with confidence. When I’m not typing away, you’ll likely find me sipping a matcha latte, strolling through local markets, or curled up with a good book under fairy lights. I love sunrises, yoga, and chasing moments of inspiration.

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