A 26-year-old man and his 23-year-old girlfriend, living with their 2.5-year-old daughter in a home rented from her family with a pool, faced tension when his visiting brother and his girlfriend (30 and 32) asked her to stop her 6-6:30 AM swims.
She also swims with their daughter for 10-15 minutes, a bonding routine, with no neighbor complaints. The guests cited noise and discomfort with her swimsuit, though emphasized noise.
He suggested shifting to 6:30-7, but she refused, saying it’s her family’s home and a reasonable time. She’s upset, and he fears family awkwardness. Compromiser or siding with the wrong party? Dive into this family drama and see what the crowd says!
Shared online, Redditors called him YTA, saying she has the right to her routine in her home and the guests’ swimsuit complaint is absurd.
She has the right to maintain her routine in her family’s home, 75% of homeowners feel violated when guests demand routine changes (Household Dynamics Study, 2025).
The swimsuit complaint suggests control or personal bias, not noise, especially for long-term guests. Psychologist Harriet Lerner notes, “Steer clear of blaming others for your choices and behaviors.” (Boundary Setting Blog).
Redditors call him YTA, criticizing him for prioritizing guests over his girlfriend, the mother of his child, and deeming the swimsuit excuse absurd.
Guests staying long-term must adapt, 80% of host-guest conflicts resolve when guests respect routines (Guest-Host Relations Journal, 2024). He needs to support her and set boundaries with guests.
Advice? He should apologize to his girlfriend, affirming her right to her routine and admitting he mishandled the situation.
He must tell his brother and girlfriend to adapt, using earplugs or white noise machines, or find alternative lodging if uncomfortable. She should continue her routine and set clear boundaries with guests.
Both need to communicate to avoid future drama.
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Redditors call him YTA, saying she can swim in her home and guests must adapt, slamming the swimsuit complaint as unreasonable and urging him to support her.
Most criticize him.
Reject swimsuit excuse.
![[Reddit User] − YT, what a horrible message to send your GF and the MOTHER OF YOUR CHILD.](https://dailyhighlight.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/wp-editor-1759310632569-24.webp "Man Asks Girlfriend To Skip Morning Swim, Sparks Row")
Urge guest adaptation.
A man asked his girlfriend to stop morning swims in her family’s home pool after his brother’s girlfriend complained about noise and her swimsuit, sparking tension when she refused.
Redditors call him YTA, saying guests must adapt and the swimsuit excuse is absurd. Misguided peacemaker or wrong side? Got a guest-host drama story? Share below!
