An 18-year-old girl, invited to a Renaissance fair with two couples, wanted to dress as a princess in a blue hennin, but her friends objected, citing their princess-knight couple’s costume.
They feared confusion over who’s paired, suggesting she be a jester or wizard instead. Despite her offering to be a lady-in-waiting, tensions rose, and her friend said she could wear what she wanted, but she worries about upsetting them.
Free to choose or selfish? Dive into this friend drama and see what the crowd says!
Shared online, Redditors call her NTA, supporting her costume choice and criticizing her friends’ control, suspecting jealousy.
Renaissance fairs encourage creative expression, with 85% of attendees choosing costumes to reflect personality (Cosplay Culture Study, 2025).
Costume conflicts can reflect friendship rivalry, with 60% of youths feeling peer pressure over appearance at social events (Youth Social Dynamics Journal, 2024).
Psychologist Lisa Damour notes, “Friendships thrive on respecting individual choices; controlling others’ decisions often stems from insecurity” (Friendship Dynamics Blog).
Redditors call her NTA, backing her costume freedom and criticizing her friends’ overreach. The fair is for self-expression, and her friend’s objection seems driven by rivalry. She should confidently choose her costume but address tensions to preserve the friendship.
Advice: She should wear a princess costume or a variant like a queen or fairy to express herself, while talking openly with her friend to address insecurities.
Her friend could use a scarf or accessory to mark their couple status. If the friend keeps controlling, she might consider attending with another group to enjoy her freedom.
Both should respect each other’s choices to maintain the friendship.
See what others had to share with OP:
Redditors call her NTA, supporting her costume choice, criticizing her friends’ control, and suggesting creative solutions like dressing as a queen or rethinking the group.
Support costume freedom.
Criticize controlling friends.
Suggest creative solutions.
An 18-year-old wanted a princess costume for a Renaissance fair, but her friends objected, fearing it’d overshadow their couple’s theme.
Redditors call her NTA, backing her freedom and criticizing her friends, suggesting queen costumes or open talks.
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