Mom Takes Daughter’s Car, Forbids Her from Driving Truck, It Backfires

A young woman’s attempt to earn some much-needed grocery money was shut down by the one person who should have supported her: her own mom.

A 21-year-old Redditor, who is temporarily crashing on her parents’ couch, needed cash for her expensive medicine. She responsibly signed up for a clinical trial. Her mom hated the idea, so she woke up early and took the daughter’s car.

She left her own giant truck blocking the driveway, but then explicitly forbade her daughter from driving it under “any circumstances.”

That very specific order backfired on the mom in the most expensive and satisfying way possible.

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That feeling of being trapped in your own home, by your own family, is suffocating. The OP is 21 years old, a legal adult, trying to be responsible by paying for her own medicine.

Instead of support, or even a simple “be safe,” she gets active sabotage. Her mom’s reaction wasn’t just disapproval. It was an aggressive, controlling move to undermine her daughter’s financial and medical independence.

The update that she fled to her fiancé’s parents’ house really says it all. This wasn’t a one-time spat. This was clearly the last straw in a long, painful pattern of behavior.

This story is a textbook, and heartbreaking, example of a controlling parent. The mother’s behavior stems from a deep-seated need to keep her daughter dependent.

The conflict is centered on money. Money is a common tool for control in toxic family dynamics. A 2023 financial wellness study from Bread Financial found that for 59% of Americans who feel “not financially secure,” money is a major source of conflict in their family relationships.

Here, the OP is trying to gain financial security, and her mother is the one creating the conflict to stop her.

Why would a parent do this? It’s about maintaining power. As licensed marriage and family therapist Darlene Lancer, JD, writes for Psychology Today, controlling parents “may use money to manipulate or maintain their connection to their adult children… Withholding money, or being overly generous with strings attached, are forms of control.”

By taking her daughter’s car, the mother is forcefully infantilizing her. She is sending a clear message: “You are not an adult, and you cannot make your own decisions.”

Dr. Karyl McBride, a therapist and expert in narcissistic parents, explains this sabotage perfectly. She notes that narcissistic parents “cannot tolerate their child’s independence.”

When they see that child moving toward success, Dr. McBride says, “they create a diversion or drama to pull them back in and make them feel guilty or irresponsible.”

The mom’s screaming fit about her daughter being a “sell out” was that exact drama.

The OP’s malicious compliance, refusing to move the truck, wasn’t just petty. It was a perfect, and necessary, boundary. She used her mother’s own controlling words to show her that her actions have very real, and very expensive, consequences.

Check out how the community responded:

The comment section was 100% on the OP’s side, with many people recognizing the mom’s behavior as something far darker than simple over-parenting.

Most commenters were just here for the fallout, suggesting the OP double down on her compliance by making herself conveniently unavailable.

Others immediately pointed out the mother’s stunning hypocrisy regarding money and control.  

A large chunk of the audience recognized this wasn’t just a simple spat, identifying classic signs of narcissistic parenting and advising the OP to start limiting all contact and information.

Finally, a few users chimed in to defend the OP’s choice, noting there is zero shame in participating in clinical trials.

How to Navigate a Situation Like This

If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells in your own home, it can be an isolating and frightening experience. That feeling of being 21 but still being treated like a child is a heavy, heavy weight.

For anyone in a similar spot, where a parent is actively trying to control your adult life, the first step is creating emotional and financial distance.

This might mean putting your parent on an “information diet,” as many commenters suggested. You don’t have to share your plans, your financial needs, or your appointments. The less they know, the less they can sabotage.

Financially, it’s critical to secure your independence. If you don’t already have one, open a bank account at a separate bank that your parents have no access to.

Start building a “get out” fund, even if it’s just a few dollars at a time. The OP’s move to her fiancé’s parents’ house was a perfect example of “strategic retreat.” Finding a safe, supportive place to land, even temporarily, is key to getting the space you need to become your own person.

Final Thoughts

The consensus is crystal clear: the OP is not the one in the wrong here. She’s an adult trying to manage her own life, and her mom is actively, and cruelly, sabotaging her. Her small act of compliance was a perfect, and totally necessary, move.

We just hope those pool contractors are charging her mom by the hour.

What do you think? Was this the right way to handle it? What would you have done when the pool workers showed up?